HOW TO CREATE LASTING CHANGE
steffani

HOW TO CREATE LASTING CHANGE

They say change isn’t easy.

Is it hard for you?

I believe it’s what you decide it is.
If you think it’s hard, it’s hard.
If you think its easy, it’s easy.

I used to HATE change. Maybe loosing someone when I was young triggered my change anchor. I remember my mom moving our Christmas tree one year and it sent me spiraling out of control. It was as if Christmas couldn’t happen because something was different. I realized then how hard change was for me. But didn’t know what to do about it.

Now I’m a change addict. I realize that a stagnant life is not what I’m after. Nothing changes if I don’t change anything.

So CHANGE must come.

How can we create the most change?

Through consistent action. Even forced action.
Through I HAVE TO DO THIS OR I’LL DIE kind of action.

If we’re in the right STATE and have the right STORY then our the ACTION we take is gonna WORK and it will create a new reality.

Who’s ready for some ACTION this week?
What comes to mind?
What action do you need to take in your life right now?

ON SETTING BOUNDARIES
steffani

ON SETTING BOUNDARIES

Are you an “obliger”?

My coach asked me that a few years ago.

What do you mean? I asked.

And before she could answer ALL of my “obliging” came flooding back to me. Like a movie reel. I could see time and time again how I went out of my way to “oblige” other people. Never putting myself first.

It’s been a long obliging road.

Even as a young girl I would make nice and didn’t want to make waves.

After college I had a boyfriend who lived in Colorado. He was older than me. When I was traveling in Europe he cheated on me. He said he was with this girl because she had to release her Chee.

(Barf)Not kidding. This really happened.

And I obliged. “Oh that’s ok. I understand”.

WTH?!

I broke up with him a few months later in a letter. Telling him that he was just too much for me. That I was meant for a more simple life and he was meant for greatness. It was the only way an obliger could get out. So I obliged. God forbid I hurt his feelings.

I’ve obliged my way through partnerships that no longer served me.

Through jobs that I should have left years ago.

In relationships that had run their course.

In friendships that were clearly meant for a season not a lifetime.

Even obliging others who I’ve loaned big amounts of money but I don’t want to ask them about it for fear that it might hurt their feelings. Seriously?!

I’m an obliger. Clearly.

And what that means to me now is that I need more boundaries.

I need more self love. I need to put myself first and need to oblige ME.

When I can do that I can consciously create a life I DO want. Not one that’s dictated by other people agendas.

It’s an uphill climb. But with awareness my obliging others habit doesn’t stand a chance.

Are you an obliger? Where do you need to create more boundaries in your life?

THE POWER OF LETTING GO
steffani

THE POWER OF LETTING GO

This morning in my meditation I found myself saying..

“Let go!”

It replaced my mantra so I went with it.

And with every exhale… I LET GO!

I let go of the 2 pounds I felt like I gained over the weekend
I let go of the bowls of cereal still sitting on the kitchen table
I let go of the resentment towards a friend who never apologized
I let go of the thought that I should have more of my shit together
I let go over planning
I let go of my negative thoughts about sugar and candy
I let go of control
I let go of my grief
I let go of the fact that my house isn’t perfect but I want it to be
I let go of my fears
I let go of my limits
I let go of the illusion that my kids should be different then they are
I let go of the fallacy that my husband should be more positive and helpful

I let it ALL go.

Its these THOUGHTS that hold me down. Not my circumstances. If I can let them go then I can be FREE.

Simple as that.

What do you need to LET GO of today?