The Key to Body Confidence
steffani

The Key to Body Confidence

I’ll just get right to it.

Don’t compare your 47 with other people’s 27.
Don’t compare your 47 to your 27 either.

What I mean by that is, the key to having body confidence is loving and accepting your body AS IT IS, RIGHT NOW. In all its’ glory and imperfection. With all its’ lumps and bumps and wrinkles.

I think we get down on our bodies because we’re in constant comparison. With others AND ourselves.

What used to work for me 20 years ago doesn’t work for me anymore. What I could do 20 years ago I can’t do anymore.

And that’s OK. It sure should be ok, it’s been 20 years. And a 47-year-old body that’s had 2 kids should look different than a 27-year-old body. It’s just a fact.

Now I need to be careful with that. I don’t need to accept my body looking worse than I want it to. I don’t need to listen to the bullshit rules out there, like that we gain weight as we get older or that we get weaker or lose flexibility. I don’t need to buy into all that. I just need to fully accept the body that I have in this moment.

At OTF today we ran a PR 1 mile. When I heard we were doing that I got a little nervous. I had flashbacks to my days running races and working with a running coach. I’ve never been a ‘runner’ or very fast, but I used to work at it and now I don’t. It hurts. For me running a fast mile feels like a near-death experience.

But I ran one today. 20 years ago my fastest mile was a 6.40. And wow. I was so proud of that. Holy shit. That was REALLY fast for ME.

Today I thought I’d push myself and try and run as fast as possible. Could I run a 7.30? Maybe an 8:30? All I knew was that I would run as fast for 1 mile as my legs and heart could carry me.

I ran an 8.05. And wow. I was SO proud of that. Holy shit. That was really fast for 47 year old me.

No judgment. No comparison. Just radical acceptance. I have no idea what other people ran it in. I really don’t care. I never even think to look.

Because for me the key to body acceptance is not comparing myself to anyone else or to a younger version of myself.

This is what my body can do NOW. This is how hard I work to constantly improve it. This is why I’m so proud of THIS body.

Now here come the Big Questions/ Bold Answers ladies…..

Do you wish you had more body confidence?
What contributes to your body confidence?
And can you teach me how to take a better selfie? 😆

 

ON MAKING POWERFUL POSITIVE CHANGES
steffani

ON MAKING POWERFUL POSITIVE CHANGES

We do MORE for others than we’ll do for ourselves.

This is an important concept to embrace. When you’re aware of it you can use it to your advantage.

I’ve used accountability to shape my life for over 20 years. From health to career to love to parenting. You name it. I’ve tried it. I find a friend or create a group and make shit happen. Sometimes it’s a friend who needs it. If a friend I love and adore has been struggling to create something I hold them accountable. I think it’s one of the most loving things we can do for each other.

It’s pretty simple. And really powerful.

Where do you need to be held accountable? And who can do that for you?

POWERFUL POSITIVE HABITS
steffani

POWERFUL POSITIVE HABITS

Our life is made up of our daily habits.

I’m at a fun and inspiring conference in Jamaica this week.

It’s easy at these events to stay up late at the parties. Drink too much. Sleep in. Eat dessert. Daily.

But that won’t get me where I want to be. Investing in my optimal health and fitness has to be non-negotiable.

My daily habits have to be aligned with the greatest vision I have of who I want to be.

What daily habits do you need to shift?

#dothework #worthit