What if…everything is a gift?
steffani

What if…everything is a gift?

As they say being a parent, ‘the days are long, but the years go by FAST.”

I’ve really noticed that this year.  My son is 10 and doesn’t feel young anymore.  My daughter is 7, going on 17. How did this happen?  

I know you get it.  

What I’m trying to do is slow time down.  By getting really present. And looking at everything as a gift.  

What if we really did that?  Woke up every morning grateful for all our gifts.  

For this life!  

For these bodies.

For running water and electricity.

For the food in our fridge.

And the roof over our heads.

And the boy in the basement playing Fortnite.

And the love in our life.

And the paychecks.

And the snowfall.

And the Christmas cookies.

I mean really.  We are SO blessed.  

No one reading this is not blessed beyond measure.  You’re probably reading this from the comfort of your own home or apartment.  On a smartphone or computer. Drinking wine or tea or coffee. Really. WE ARE SO BLESSED.  

If we can just come back to that more often.  Like when we’re stressed about money. Or we’re yelling at our kids.  Or we’re thinking we’re fat. Or we’re feeling like a bad mom.

Just come back to our blessings.  And all will be ok.

After all, we got here by focusing on what we want.  So let’s focus even more on what we’re grateful for. And see what we create from there.  

Today I’m more grateful than ever to have you on this journey with me.  This parenting thing ain’t for sissys. I realized right when I had my son that I needed a village.  A sisterhood. And I’m grateful every day that I build this POWERFUL positive one.

Thanks for believing in me Mommas.  And for believing in yourself. And making Christmas about so much more than just gifts.


“And the Grinch, with his Grinch-feet ice cold in the snow, stood puzzling and puzzling, how could it be so? It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes or bags. And he puzzled and puzzled ’till his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before. What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store. What if Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more.” 
― Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas!


Wishing you all the happiness your heart and hands can hold this holiday season and beyond.  

 

YOU. ARE. A. GIFT!  

Steffani

This Holiday, How Can I Love You Better
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This Holiday, How Can I Love You Better

Quick question…

How often do you show your partner you love them?

How often do you show your kids that you love them?

Do you do it THIS time of year but not every day?

Do you talk about it openly? Do you know what they need to feel loved?

For me, the magic of the holiday season is a great excuse to love on people more.
I give more hugs for no reason.
I tell my friends and family I love them and wish them well and happy.
I write letters of gratitude and give gifts of thanks.

Easy to do this now.  What if we did this ALL the time.  And what if we dove DEEPER into love over the holidays.

Thich Nhat Hanh says in his book Touching Peace that we should look deeply into our loved ones eyes and say “please tell me how I can love you better.”

If you’re a woman talking to a man I’m sure you know the nature of how he might respond. And it will most likely have to take place in the bedroom. Instead of just shrugging this off, really listen for the answer and see how you can meet your family’s needs.

When I asked my husband this question his first answer had something to do with me in a maid costume. Then, when I pushed him for more, he had a few practical suggestions.

“Support me when I have to work a lot. Help me find time to get out and play hockey. Don’t ride me when I’m tired and dismissive, it’s nothing personal.”

Wow. Is that all?

Seriously….aren’t those great suggestions? Are you telling me that if I do those things you’ll feel more LOVED? Then I’m in! Not a problem.

When I asked my friends they said nothing at first then they told me that I can call them more, and I can send them a holiday card. How easy is that? I would love to love them better in that way. When I asked my sister she said, “you can spend more time with me. You can support my dreams.” My other sister said, “you can be more patient with me.” What wonderful information for me to learn about my family.

What if we asked our kids “How can I love you better?” And really listened to the answer. They might have some great suggestions. The answers might have to do with more flexibility or more freedom and maybe that’s OK. They might want to spend more time with you, and that’s OK too. Or they might need you to be more patient with them or kinder with your words. (um, raises hand…)

But wouldn’t it be great to know how you can love someone better? Why not ask them and see for yourself?

I dare you, this holiday season, ask your Mom, ask your sister, ask your children. Be so bold to ask your husband or wife and see the beauty it brings.

I hope this holiday season finds you FILLED with more happiness than your heart and hands can hold.

How can I love you better?

Steffani

Gratitude
steffani

Gratitude

Makeup free. Moved to tears. Sitting in overwhelming gratitude and awe for this life.

I just wrapped up my 12 week Next Level Life Mastermind program and my 6 week Badass Life Intensive. Both on the same day. Both with women shinning and glowing in a way they never thought possible. But with more inspiration, action, and transformation than any of us ever thought to be possible.

This is why I do this. Why I sit makeup free by my fire day after day hosting accountability calls and coaching calls and getting on the phone with any woman who’s suffering.

Because this is what life is all about. Getting to the top of the mountain and helping the next one up.

This life isn’t about us. It’s about everyone whose life we touch. Whether we experience life with suffering or joy is up to us. Whether we affect others positively or negatively is up to us. If we operate from fear or lack that’s up to us.

We can get to the top of the mountain. With certainty and systems and support. Then we help the next one up. And our life has more meaning than we ever dreamed possible.

I’m sooo grateful to all of you ladies. Thank you for believing in me and believing in yourself. Now reach down. And pull the next one up.

#badasslife #nextlevellife #grateful

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