I wasn’t always this happy….
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I wasn’t always this happy….

There were plenty of times in my life when I wasn’t happy at all.

There was a time

  • in college when I wasn’t happy…
  • in my adult life when I was living in the city that I wasn’t happy…
  • when I was married and I wasn’t happy…
  • when I had kids and I wasn’t happy…

It goes on and on.

But I learned a little trick.   

What I did each time when I wasn’t happy is this:  I took on my happiness like it was a full-time JOB and it became progressively easier.  

I did everything I could to

  • create a happier life…
  • get into a happier state…
  • have happier days…

so that I could FEEL BETTER.

Once I was feeling better, I was able to become more GRATEFUL.  And being more grateful, helped me enjoy life more.  It all created an upward spiral.

Sometimes it takes work to get happy. It’s not always easy. It’s not always natural.

People think that I have a really easy, happy life. But they don’t understand all the work that came into being this happy.

Creating a Happiness Recipe 

There is one simple tool I use with all of my clients and we often revisit it.  We simply list the things that can be done every day that make us happy.  What can you do to shift easily into a happy state?  What’s on your Happy List?

Here are a few things on my list:

  • Listening to uplifting music
  • Eating dark chocolate
  • Feeling the sun on my skin
  • Exercising
  • Being out in nature
  • Walking my dog
  • Calling a friend
  • Being near water
  • Taking a long shower
  • Listening to an audiobook or podcast
  • Being on a beach
  • Driving my convertible
  • Drinking red wine
  • Visualizing/meditating/breathwork

Everyone’s Happiness Recipe is going to look different. You just have to know what works best for you.  What is it that shifts you into a happier state?

Then, all you have to do is more of that.  DAILY.

And watch the magic unfold in your life.

What’s on your Happy List?    Join me in the Badass Mom Society and share!

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How You FEEL Matters.
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How You FEEL Matters.

How Feelings Manifest Our Reality

We manifest our reality not just from our thoughts – (Sooo sooo important), not just from our words – (Equally as important).  But also from our feelings. In fact, I think how we FEEL is the most important of all.

It’s the feeling that we’re after anyway right?

We all want to FEEL better.  We want more inner peace. We want more joy. We want more happiness and contentment.  We don’t want the stress and the drama. We don’t want the hustle.

What we’re after is what the hustle brings. It brings freedom and ease. But only if we let it, and we let it by feeling first.

You see, it’s not when you have it all that you’ll finally be HAPPY, it’s when you’re HAPPY that you’ll actually have it all.

Our feelings matter. 

Now I know what you’re thinking… here come the “yea buts”…

“Yea but my husband is so negative”

“Yea but my job sucks”

“Yea but I don’t have any money or time or support”

All those “Yea buts” place an order.

When you think that and focus on that and FEEL that you’ll get more of it.

You need a clean slate.

You need to start FEELING how you want to feel. And you need to feel it now. Time is running out.

Don’t wait another minute to feel better. You have to start today.

What can you do today to FEEL better?

If you need support, join me in the Badass Mom Society. This is what I do. I’ve got this mastered. ️️

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Just Say No
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Just Say No

A big Ah Ha hit me years ago: In order to live and love even bigger, I may need to let go of some things that I love.

It’s easy to let go of things that don’t serve you. Things that you hate. That feel awful. But it’s hard to let go of things that you love. That DO serve you in some way. That are rewarding. But ahhh, that’s the catch.

Sometimes those things keep you too comfortable. They help you settle for a life that’s not ALL THAT. A life that you like but don’t love. That’s good but not great. It’s tricky.

For me getting comfortable held me back. Comfort can kill a dream for sure. What I realized was letting go of some things that I love helped me get MORE. It helped me move from Steffani 1.0 to Steffani 2.0.

I let go of a job that I loved to start my own coaching business. I let go of a house in the city that I loved to move into our dream home in the burbs. And now I say NO to things that I love because what used to satisfy and delight Steffani 1.0 doesn’t work any longer.

I’ve said no to speaking gigs. And no to travel. And no to book clubs and invitations and vacays and volunteer ops. Because if they’re not aligned with the newest version of me I’m doing myself a disservice. I’m fueling Steffani 1.0 while trying to elevate my life. That doesn’t work.

It’s not easy to say no. Especially to things you love. But I’m getting better at it. The newest version of me deserves it.

What do you need to say no to?  

If you are looking for guidance and others who are on the same quest as you, join my group on Facebook.