Things I’m Not Good At
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Things I’m Not Good At

There are some things (many) that I am not good at, that I see other moms doing effortlessly. (Or seemingly effortlessly)

Here’s a short list where my “skills” are lacking:

  1. Shopping with kids.
  2. Staying at home with kids – Designing, decorating, styling. (All aspects of all of these)
  3. Home schooling
  4. Cooking
  5. Organizing
  6. Volunteering at school

I just look at these moms that can do some or all of these things like WOW!! I’m in awe.

Do you ever compare yourself to these Supermoms? I used to. But now I focus on my strengths. I have enough confidence in my gifts that I don’t get envious or jealous. Like:

  1. I can make an awesome green smoothie.
  2. I always have a healthy snack in my purse.
  3. I can design a workout anywhere anytime.
  4. I know how to talk anyone down from any ledge. Literally.
  5. I can turn around a situation and always find the positives.
  6. I can make anyone feel better about any situation.
  7. I make people feel good and comfortable.
  8. Nothing feels too hard for me.
  9. I believe anything’s possible.

My strengths may look different than most moms. We all have strengths, and guess what … we all have weaknesses. When we focus on our strengths, and try and show up as the best mom we can be, not better than anyone else, not trying to show up like that mom or that mom, everyone wins!

Just do you!! 

What do you do really well?

Share some of your strengths below.

On Listening To Your Heart
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On Listening To Your Heart

5 years ago 

I finally listened to my heart and officially launched my own coaching business…..

5 years before that

I had everyone around me, including my heart, telling me I should coach. I knew there was a bigger way I could serve, 5 years before that I was working my real “job” but I was coaching every chance I got. I felt the pull to coach and serve every damn day.

I don’t want it to take you as long as it took me.

Have you heard the call? Have you answered the call? I believe we all have many Universal assignments that we need to step up and step into.

For me, one of them was coaching. Helping busy Moms work on their mindset, remove there limiting beliefs, improve their relationships, so they can find more daily happiness. And be the Moms they have always wanted to be. The Moms their kids need them to be.

What does your call sound like? 

Can you hear it? 

How can you clear your head so you can hear your heart? 

For me, I hear a lot of head chatter. But the heart calling is very different.

The heart call is downstream. The heart call is effortless. The heart call is fun. The heart call might be work but it still feels GREAT. The heart call has purpose and meaning. And most of all the heart call is not about me. It’s about how I can SERVE the world.

I realized on this 5 year anniversary that I need to show up more in a place of service than I have recently. In order to serve busy Moms the way I want to, I need to SHOW UP. I need to share what works for me. I need to give, and grow and be here every day for these Mommas who are looking for support and a big shift.

A lot of Moms are unaware how to shift what isn’t working in their lives. And that’s where I can help. That’s my specialty.

So if you see me on FB more often showing up as my highest self, now you know why. I’m here to answer that heart call. I’m here to serve. I’m here to genuinely and authentically share my love of life and what worked to help me get there.

I’m here to show you what’s possible. I’m here to raise the bar and live an extraordinary life in every area.

And I want to take you with me. 

Who’s up for the ride?

Join me in the Badass Mom Society on Facebook.

11 years ago I did something I never thought I’d do…
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11 years ago I did something I never thought I’d do…

I got married….

I didn’t just get married. I got married to my childhood crush.

I remember sitting at McDonalds with my girlfriends when I was 15 telling them how much I liked this boy John LeFevour. They quickly talked me out of it since he was so young. Only 11 years old at the time.

How could I consider dating a 5th grader???!!! At the time he was too young. But there was something about him. So I told him he’d make a good boyfriend in 10 years.

And he asked me to wait for him.

Who does that at 11 years old?! John LeFevour does.

10 years later we ran into each other at a bar in our hometown. We were both single. I remember asking him how old he was to make sure he was old enough. 😊 He was 21 and I was 25. Now that’s not a bad age difference. He asked me if I was finally ready to go out with him. I thought it would be a fun summer fling.

10 years later to the day we got married. In a midnight ceremony. On our 10 year anniversary.

Contrary to what most people think when you date someone for 10 years before you get married, I didn’t have to give him an ultimatum.

It was HE who had to convince ME.

See I never WANTED to get married. I was afraid it was too hard. I was afraid people changed after marriage. I was afraid married people lost love for each other and never had sex. I was afraid I would marry my Dad. I was afraid my life wouldn’t be full and fun and spontaneous.

After we’d been dating for 8 years something shifted. I realized John wasn’t changing. And that he wasn’t going anywhere.

Then he got sober. And completely changed the game on me.

One night after he was out of rehab and was sober almost a year we were out to dinner, and we were talking about regrets.

If we died tomorrow would we have any regrets?

And it hit me….

I would regret not marrying him.

I never told him that. I was still too afraid.

2 months later he proposed. And I said yes.

It hasn’t always been easy. I had plenty of doubts. I doubted myself. I doubted John. I doubted the institution of marriage.

But when I look back at it all I really never doubted US. No matter what we went through over these last 21 years together my faith in US has been unwavering.

He has proved every one of my fears wrong. You CAN have a wild, spontaneous, happy, healthy, sexy, fun marriage. You CAN grow together not apart. You CAN break your old pattern and not marry your Dad. The love never dies. The sex is still great. And we CAN both continue to reinvent ourselves. And have a better life together than we would apart.

I never wanted to get married…

But I NEEDED to get married. To complete my soul’s mission.

John and I have done this dance many times. 😊😍And it was meant to be again.

I’m so grateful I had faith. I so grateful we persevered. I’m so grateful I faced my fears and I said YES. I’m so grateful that he knew. That he always knew.

My life with John is better than I could ever imagine a life could be.

If I could tell my 15-year-old self one thing I would say…kiss him now, don’t wait.