How Can I Help My Friend Who Is Struggling?
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How Can I Help My Friend Who Is Struggling?

A few of my inner circle ladies asked this great question. “How can I help my friend who is struggling?” We’re not all coaches. I get that. They asked for a few easy things they can do to help a friend if they’re having a hard time coping.

In this video, I share a few steps you can take. Including:

  1. Validate their feelings.
  2. Ask about their state.
  3. Help them shift their thoughts.
  4. Bring them back to joy and gratitude.

Check out the vid for some simple examples. And PLEASE share your ideas and what has worked for you to support your friends.  Join my Badass Mom Society Facebook group for more tools like this and to share your wins. 

 

One day at a time!  We’re all in this together.  We’ve got this… 

PS Is there something you want to hear about?  A big question you’d love an answer for? Email me here.

Core Values #2: Personal Power
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Core Values #2: Personal Power

I hope you saw my post yesterday introducing core values and how important they are when it comes to living our best lives.  Today I want to share my second core value with you and how I EMBODY and show up with these core values.  Yesterday I talked about radical acceptance.  If that’s not a concept you get yet, check out that post.  Today I want to talk about something totally different…

Core Value #2…. Personal Power

Four years ago I had a spiritual awakening.  To make a long story very short it was basically a dream, or some kind of divine guidance, that told me I already had it all.  In so many words it said the following….

You already are all you need to be.
You already have it all.
You are all you desire to be.
You’re gifted.
You’re talented.
You are light.
You are love.
You are energy.
You are infinite.
You are everything.
You have the power within you to move mountains.
You can and you will manifest everything you’ve ever wanted.
Just by being you, you are powerful, beyond measure. 

 

I woke up with this KNOWINGNESS.  With what felt like a secret and with an awakening like “Oh yea….that’s right. I am the light.  I just forgot for a while.” With that spiritual awakening fresh in my awareness, I started acting differently.  I started walking around in my own power. I started showing up as ALL THAT I AM. I started unapologetically loving my life and doing what I love.  In that order.

I really started showing up more for myself first, and my family, social situations and on social media. Everyone started to notice.  They thought I had re-branded or that I was on medication or something. Really! Like something is wrong with people who are owning their shit – people who are standing in their power with confidence and certainty.  I was high on my own supply – on my personal power supply. 

 

AND… personal power for me has a flip side. 

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It’s not just about owning our own personal power and light.  (Because, PS and DUH, this isn’t reserved only for me, OBVIOUSLY you are the light too.) It’s also about owning our shit.  It’s taking 100% responsibility for EVERYTHING, even our shortcomings, our character defects, our fears and limiting beliefs, the way we play small, our triggers and our meanness.  ALL OF IT. 

 

Personal power to me means owning it ALL: the good, the bad, the ugly and the conscious and enlightened parts of us. 

 

So how does personal power help me show up in life?  Showing up and embodying our core values is the next step in our evolution.  And for me, personal power shows up as COMMITMENT. Committing to being my true authentic self.  Committing to showing up as my BEST self. Committing to owning my personal power and BEING that in life.  Committing to owning my shit and working on that in life. Commitment is the showing up word. 

 

Do you feel like you own your personal power?  Can you kick it up a notch?  I know I can. We are ALL powerful beyond measure! 

 

5 Powerful Core Values
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5 Powerful Core Values

Many of you know I’ve been on this personal growth journey for almost 30 years now.  It’s been a beast at times, for sure. And the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. 

 

Years ago, probably 20+ years ago, I did a program (I forget the name) and they introduced Core Values to me.  It was the first time I really thought about my core values and how I wanted to really show up in my life. I was in my 20’s so my core values were NOT what they are now.  If I could find the workbook I’m sure my core values had a lot to do with partying and friendship because those were definitely my core values back then. Or so I thought. 

 

Over the last 10 years, well out of my 20’s and 30’s, I’ve been deeply exploring my core values.  And I teach this core value work to all of my clients. It’s part of the first module in my online course for a reason.  Because when we really understand and start to embody our core values we live our lives with more intention and purpose. And who doesn’t want that? 

 

I’ve found more and more that women (especially women) haven’t put any thought into their core values and when they do, their lives take off in a new direction. So…. over the next 5 days I’ll be sharing one of my core values with all of you in hopes that it might inspire you to uncover some of your own.  This is deep and beautiful work. I’m happy to share it with you. 

 

Core Values #1…. Radical Acceptance. 

 

I was talking to my coach the other day about radical acceptance and how important it is in my life and he woke me up to something.  He said, “You do get that people don’t understand what that means right?” “Um…. They don’t?” I stammered. Radical acceptance has become such a big part of my life and my vocabulary that I feel like it’s something everyone gets.  It’s a ‘yea duh’ to me and I forget sometimes that it’s not a ‘yea duh’ to everyone. 

 

What I’ve learned in my 30 years of personal growth exploration can all be boiled down to radical acceptance.  Meaning it’s important to me to not only radically accept who I am and love and honor ME, my life, my body, and my choices along this journey, but ALSO to radically accept everyone else around me.  To radically accept every soul whose life I come in contact with exactly as they are even the people who may trigger me, even the ones who have hurt me, even my Mom in her passive-aggressiveness – especially my Mom in her passive-aggressiveness. I need to radically accept my son’s teacher who treats him poorly,  our president and even my husband when he’s enraged. Everyone. Radically accepting people for exactly who they are, brings me peace. It’s a core value of mine because I believe it’s important and critical to our soul’s progression. 

 

But that’s just ME.  I find peace and freedom in radical acceptance.  I’m sure not everyone does. It’s a big concept to grasp.  I have women who have been working with me for years who still ask me…. “Ok how can I radically accept THIS guy.”  And we work through it. 

 

Radical acceptance brings me out of this very HUMAN experience I’m having and up and into the soul experience I’m really having.  It helps me see all as ONE. It helps me accept everyone as a soul having a human experience and everyone as having the perfect and right experience that they’re meant to have for their soul’s progression. Too deep for you?  Maybe. And that’s ok because I radically accept you for exactly where you are. 🙂 LOL 

 

Have you explored your core values?  I’d love to know and to hear what they are if you have.  Reply to this post I’m listening. 

 

Stay tuned for my second Core Value and how I really live these values and show up with them in life.