Creating a new YOU in the New Year…

Creating a new YOU in the New Year…

How do you create a new YOU in the New Year?

I’ve been doing year-end reviews and planning my new year for longer then I can remember.  

I used to throw New Years Eve parties right out of college and my focus wasn’t just on drinking and celebrating (ok it was mainly that… come on, I was 21) but it was also focused on letting go of the old and bringing in the new.  

I was notorious for having a ‘project’ or process that I asked everyone to do.  

One year we wrote what no longer served us on this biodegradable paper and wrapped it around rocks and threw it into the river off my condo balcony.  😀

Another year we burned our limiting beliefs in a big bonfire on my roof.  

And another year we chose a word or a theme for the New Year and made bracelets with the word on them.  

See, I’ve always been into this stuff. 😀

I also asked people to bring gloves and hats and we donated them to a charity.  Why not ring in the New Year doing something good?

Why let this significant moment in time pass you by without designing a new YOU?  

See, we can create ourselves anew at any moment.  If we choose to. So let’s do some digging and see who we want to BE in 2019.  

Here are a few questions I love to reflect on about the past year:

What was your biggest triumph in 2018?

What was the smartest decision you made in 2018?

What was the greatest lesson you learned in 2018?

Who do you need to forgive?

What area of your life could you have focused more on in 2018?

Where did you fail?  

And then, and only then, can you start to plan your new year and design a new YOU.  

What would you like to be your biggest triumph in 2019?

What advice would your higher self give you going into 2019?

What would you be most happy about completing in 2019?

How can you nurture yourself more?  

What one word/phrase will be your prayer, intention or theme in 2019?

Those are just a few fun questions to get you started.  

Next Level Live MastermindWe do an extensive year-end review and design our new year in my Next Level Life Mastermind.  This year I created an Inner Circle Mastermind where we’ll be together cheering each other on for the whole year of 2019.  

Why?  Because that’s what I wanted to design in my new year.  

And guess what?!  You can too.

Whatever you want to be, do or have you can do in 2019.  Literally. Not 10 years from now, not 5 years from now, NEXT YEAR!

Put some time into every area of your life and look at what you want, why you want it, and how you’re gonna get it. And your New Year will look RADICALLY different than any year before.

Let me know how I can support you being the best YOU in the New Year.  I hope you’ll join me in some fun programs to step into your best self.  

I have a 21 Day Badass Mom Mindset program starting Jan……

http://badassmommindset.com/

 

 

 

 

 

Here’s to 2019, may it be your BEST year YET.

Steffani

 

How To Shift Your Shit

How To Shift Your Shit

I Get Triggered.

OFTEN.

I have as many challenges as anyone I know.  Sometimes, it feels like more.

Even though I do this “work” that I love and I’m constantly working on myself, my inner peace and happiness, I still get angry.  Mistakes are still made.  My temper still gets lost.  The result:  I show up as a wounded version of myself.

As much as I try to be that monk on the hill and let all things roll off my back, to be completely honest, it doesn’t always happen. I try to channel my inner Nelson Mandela but sometimes I just can’t.

What I Do Know

There’s one thing I DO know how to do in those situations.

I know how to Course Correct.

For starters, I’m aware of the situation.  I’m not blindly raging, thinking it’s everyone else’s fault.  I know it’s my own challenge.  I know it’s about me and no-one else but ME.  I Own It! 

That is to say that I can identify when I’m triggered and I know that it’s entirely my responsibility NOT to get triggered.   It’s certainly not the world’s responsibility not to trigger me.

Above all, I know that I’m in control of my reactions. No one makes me mad.  I chose to get mad.  No one hurts me, I allow myself to be hurt or feel pain.

I’m either taking things personally or I’m in my own lane. I’m in my business or their business. What they do or say has nothing to do with me. Unless I let it.

So I find peace in my Course Corrections.  I am in complete control.

Every Day

I try to course correct as quickly as possible. So that my moments of peace are long and luscious and my moments of despair are fewer and far between.

The faster I can course correct, the quicker I can return to the true essence of who I am.

HOW exactly do I course correct?

I do the work on my thoughts and follow these steps:

  • Consciously shift into a state of gratitude to recognize all of the goodness surrounding me
  • Cancel the negative thought and reach for a better-feeling one
  • Move into an appreciation for my life and even for the situation because there is always something to learn

My happiness depends on it.

One more thing I know for sure: This life is worth it. It’s too important.  Walking around wounded and resentful only wastes my time.  Drinking poison and thinking other people will die, I know better.  And DO better, as soon as I can get there.

Course correcting now,

Steff

Busy Is Our B!tch.

Busy Is Our B!tch.

Life gets busy.

Like crazy busy.

But here’s a secret.

It’s our thoughts and not the circumstances we find ourselves under that bring us stress.

Even when our plate is so full that it feels like we might crumble or like we just might not make it…

We will.

Even when it feels impossible to get it all done…

We manage to do it. All of it.

We always do don’t we?

Our thoughts can get so stressful.

“I can’t do it all.”

“It’s too much.”

“I don’t have enough time”

“I need more support.”

Those thoughts are the enemy.

Reclaim your time.

Here’s what I do to get rid of those negative thoughts and take back my time.

  • Write everything down – every little detail.
  • Keep a running list of the things that pop up that have been missed or are looming.
  • Schedule time in your calendar to do them.
  • Don’t just think about it. Book the sitter and schedule it in.

Then get after it. Like the Badass Mom that you are.

We can do this Mommas! This has got nothing on us.

Busy is our bitch!

Stef