You Can Have It All
steffani

You Can Have It All

We CAN have it all.

As long as “it all” is whatever YOU want. There’s a lie we tell ourselves that we don’t deserve it. That there’s not enough to go around. That its hard. That we have to suffer to get it.
They’re all lies. Anchors we drop that hold our boat back from floating downstream. These lies are limiting beliefs that we begin to create from.
We create our reality through our thoughts, words and beliefs.
Why let those anchors hold you back any longer?
Drop the anchor and your boat will float naturally. You don’t need to pick up the oars. And paddle. Just…. let…. go.
Cut the rope of every anchor and let go. Your boat will turn and flow downstream. Downstream is where your dreams are. Focus on the end result of what you DO want.
Remove the limiting beliefs that are holding you back.
“I’m not enough.”
“I need to DO more.”
“I’ll be happy when I get________.”
“But my husband is so negative.”
“I don’t deserve it.”
“Who am I to have it all”
Let your boat do what comes naturally. Let it turn and flow with the river. Your desires are waiting there.
If you need help with this I’m here for you.
http://badassmommindset.com/
I Never Wanted Kids
steffani

I Never Wanted Kids

I’m ashamed to tell you…

I never wanted to have kids.

I was 38 when I had Jack. And 40 when I had Zoe.

I was afraid I would be a bad mom.

I was afraid I’d yell at them… and I do.

I was afraid I wouldn’t know how to raise them….and I don’t.

I was afraid it would all be too much for me to handle…. and it is.

What I didn’t know was how much I needed kids.

I didn’t know that they chose me. That they were on their way. That I needed them for the progression of my soul. I needed them to show me my weaknesses. And create more strength than I ever thought possible.

I needed them to trigger me, and push me past my limits and stretch me outside of my comfort zone. So that I could expand into the woman I now am. So that I could learn to deal with more hard things and teach others how to deal with more hard things. So that I would finally know what it’s like to love someone to the depths of your soul. So that I would find little things funny again. And jump and skip and play tag again.

I needed them to push my relationship too. So that we would learn how to love each other differently. And how to be together through IT ALL. And I mean IT ALL. Tireless nights with a colicky baby, pneumonia, night terrors, constipation, umbilical hernias and then, bad teachers, bad decisions, broken hearts, more constipation, and homework.

Its only been 9 years and we’ve experienced so much together. These 9 years have felt longer than most. The days can feel so long. Longer than the days I was volunteering in a 3rd world country.

But I’m realizing now that I needed this. All of this. The yelling, the crying, the fights, the homework battles, the tears, the sorrow, the swear words. AND the joy, the laughter, the playing, the sweetness, the kisses the fun.

It all enhances my life more than I ever imagined possible.

And I wouldn’t change a thing.

What I am MOST grateful for…..you’ll be surprised by the answer
steffani

What I am MOST grateful for…..you’ll be surprised by the answer

Hi my friend,

With Thanksgiving around the corner we’ve been talking a lot about what we’re grateful for. We have a big chalk board in our kitchen above our sink and we’ve been writing daily what we’re thankful for.

I know I’m supposed to say I’m most grateful for my family. And believe me I am. I’m not THAT person.

But there’s something I’m even more grateful for. No, not my husband, (sorry honey) or my Mom (please don’t ground me).

It’s actually accountability.

Ok hear me out. I’ve been in masterminds and accountability groups for over 20 years. Most of them I’ve been running. Accountability has been ESSENTIAL in my success. It’s honestly made me who I am as a woman, and as a parent.

Sure my Mom helped with that too. But with that alone and no accountability I’d be a totally different Mom. And my husband is ABSOLUTELY responsible for the love and abundance I have in my life. But without the accountability and the groups and the people in them I don’t know that I would have been ready to be the person I am and therefore marry him and have kids.

So you see I LITERALLY have accountability to thank for EVERYTHING.

 

My first accountability group was an actors group that I started right after college. I majored in Theater and didn’t know any other actors in Chicago. So I started a group. This was before the internet. Wow, how is that possible.?! So I put up a sign at a local acting school and asked people to join my group. We met monthly and held each other accountable for things we wanted to accomplish in the business. It was a HUGE success. The biggest one had 30 people attending for a few months. And it’s still an active group now, over 20 years later. I don’t run it anymore. Or even attend. But it’s still a group, now on meetup.com, that I started in my living room. I still stay in touch with a lot of people who I met in that group. Many of who are still working actors. I started another mastermind group after I attended Afest in 2012. The group was made up of 12 of my favorite entrepreneurs. We had 3 things in common. We’d all been to Afest. We had all attended a program called Lifebook. And we all had an abundant mentality. That group was 100% responsible for me starting my coaching business. If it wasn’t for them I would still be saying “I should start my own thing..”

Through more accountability groups I’ve now started 3 businesses, I’m in the best shape of my life, I signed a big commercial deal, I completed a ½ ironman, landed my dream job, landed my next dream job, booked dream speaking gigs at conferences and retreats, filled my private client base, bought my dream home, and I can say I finally after 8 years and after massive accountability understand my kids and feel really solid in my parenting. What what?!

Needless to say ACCOUNTABILITY can completely change your life for the better.

Do you have one?!

You NEED one.

Now that you’re hopefully convinced let me share some simple steps you can take to

starting your own mastermind group.

Step 1. Find 3 or more people with a common goal or similar interests
2 people does not make a mastermind. You can have 1 person hold you accountable but trust me, it doesn’t create a mastermind dynamic. 3 or more is ideal. 20 is usually max.

Step 2. Choose the date and time
Will you meet weekly or monthly? I found weekly is ideal if you’re trying to create the most impact.

Step 3. Create an agenda
This is key. You need a productive agenda for the whole group to follow. Happy to suggest a few. Email me if you’re interested in hearing more.

Step 4. STICK TO THE AGENDA
Can you tell by the all caps that this one is important? 

Step 5. Celebrate your success.
Continue to encourage each other. Celebrating every little win along the way. Showing up for weekly meets is a win in my book. So CELEBRATE.

It’s really that simple. And it can create the most powerful positive change in your life that you’ve ever imagined.

I have a new OPRF Mom Squad accountability group starting in January. If you’d like to join us please email me and I’ll send you more details. This group will be all about community, accountability (of course), growth, support and happiness. You WILL come out on the other side of this group with more daily happiness than you ever thought possible. Hope to hear from you.

Holding you accountable,

Steffani