The Art of Allowing
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The Art of Allowing

Many years ago I went to an Abraham Hicks workshop on The Art of Allowing. I had already been studying the law of attraction for over 20 years, teaching it in workshops and created a program for the Chicago Public Schools. But I was ready, REALLY ready to hear about the art of allowing.
There were a few things that I was ‘trying’ to manifest that hadn’t happened yet.  One specifically I wanted to sign with a big acting agent for commercial work and book a commercial. I’d been trying to manifest this for almost a year. It was on my vision board. On my wishing tree. In my box of dreams. I visualized it daily. I submitted to this agent every few months.
WHY wasn’t it happening yet.
I sat down in my chair in the banquet room of some Sheraton or Westin or something and was ready for the info.
Do I need to hang crystals in my bedroom? Sleep on magnets? Is my vision board broken? Do I need to do some Feng shui or burn some sage? Whatever it is I’m ready. Just tell me what I need to do to ALLOW in this dream.
I knew I was clear on it. I had ASKED for it. I believed I could have it. So how could I allow it in?
And then I got it…..
The whole theme of the workshop was about happiness.
I remember hearing Esther say “Just how happy can you be?”

Our HAPPINESS is the art of allowing. It’s through our happiness that we ALLOW all our desires in.

Ahhhhh yes!! YES! YAY!
So all I have to do is be happy? Yes! It sounds so simple. But it’s not that easy. You don’t even have to be happy with the thing that you are wanting. You can be happy petting your dog and you’re in the state of allowing. You can be happy eating a blueberry muffin and you’re in the state of allowing. Sure it helps if you’re happy with your job and you want to attract a new, better job. But you don’t have to. You can be happy playing Frisbee and you’re in the state of allowing in a new job. Isn’t that awesome?

Our happiness is that important.

I teach my clients how to ‘safeguard’ their happiness. Because our dreams are that important. And if they’re directly linked to our happiness, then our happiness is crucial.
One more important piece.

No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

No circumstances direct your happiness either.

It’s an internal job. And it’s a choice. You can choose to be happy or not. It’s up to you. You can choose to do things that make you feel happy or not. It’s also up to you.
When I left that workshop I knew that my happiness was the KEY to multiply and turn up my manifesting powers.
So I went after it. Like it was my JOB. I made a list of all the daily things I could do that made me happy. I made a list of all the people in my life that made me happy. I made a list of things I wanted to do that would make me happy. And I focused on those lists, like a recipe.
Doing these things that make me feel happy will get me these big dreams?! DONE!
Two months later I got the call….. from my dream agent. And 2 months after that I booked my first commercial. I can safely say I allowed all that in through my happiness.
Just how happy are you?
What are you doing to safeguard your happiness?
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Subconscious Thoughts
steffani

Subconscious Thoughts

  • By steffani
  • March 14, 2018
  • Mindset

The Universe isn’t listening to only our conscious, dominant thoughts and words. It responds to our subconscious thoughts too. When I started studying the law of attraction and quantum physics, I also dove deep into neuroscience. You have to. They’re all interconnected.

Neuroscience research reveals that our conscious thoughts make up only 7% of what we’re thinking. Only 7%. Wow. We need to get the other 93% on board.

So when we have a long overriding fear, worry or negative thought, we place an order. When we unintentionally expect that there will be tension at that family party: Order received.

When we expect our husband to be in a bad mood: Wish granted.

The only way to fix it is to be more conscious about our thoughts and to get the other 93% on board. Be more proactive. Focus on and think the thoughts you do want, so you’re not placing orders for what you don’t.

The good news is the subconscious is a yes machine, meaning it responds to every seed you plant with a yes.

“I’m feeling better.” Yes.
“My relationship is improving.” Yes.
“My kids are actually getting along.” Yes.
“I love spending time with my in-laws.” Yes.
“My business is booming.” Yes.
“I see less and less cellulite on my thighs every day.” Yes.

The more we program our subconscious, the more it responds. You’re literally reprograming your subconscious brain. And now you need to keep reprogramming those thoughts so that those orders will be fulfilled.

http://www.amazon.com/Return-Love-Reflections-Principles-Miracles/dp/0060927488/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1520455501&sr=1-1&keywords=a+return+to+love+by+marianne+williamson&dpID=41aNp7HYQWL&preST=_SY291_BO1,204,203,200_QL40_&dpSrc=srch
A Return To Love by Marianne Williamson, and it totally turned my life around.

I have another thoughts-creating story that was totally subconscious. When I was nineteen, I read the book A Return To Love by Marianne Williamson, and it totally turned my life around. It was the first time I really understood forgiveness or thought about consciously creating my life.

I credit that book for starting me on this path to personal growth that I’ve been on for almost thirty years now. When anyone asked me how I got into this work, I would credit that book and Marianne Williamson. I hosted book clubs on that book. I went to see her speak whenever I could. I read everything else she ever wrote.

Many years later, I was volunteering at a conference called “Celebrate Your Life.” They have amazing speakers like Neale Donald Walsh, the late Wayne Dyer, Sonia Choquette, and Marianne Williamson to name a few. As a volunteer, you never know what job you might have. So when I got my assignment, I was so excited, but not surprised: I got assigned as Marianne Williamson’s speaker’s assistant. When I saw that, I knew that my subconscious placed those orders.

I got to meet her at the airport in a limo. Take her back to the hotel. Check her into her hotel room. Bring her to and from her keynote. We had many long conversations, and she was as gracious and graceful as I had ever imagined. We even did some yoga together in her hotel room before she went onstage to speak. Yeah, so that happened. #wow

At one point, she saw my book in my bag—the book I’d had since 1999 that followed me from house to house from college through adulthood. She asked if she could see it. It was dog-eared and highlighted and thoroughly used. She said it was a dream come true for an author to see a book like that and asked me if she could sign it for me. Um, yes, please. What a beautiful order I had placed. More of those subconscious orders, please.

You can’t expect great things when you’re thinking lousy thoughts. So we need to change our thoughts. As badass moms, we need to start focusing on more of the good in our lives. We need to shift our thoughts to place the orders that we do want. To start aligning with the next-level life that we know we deserve and that’s within our reach. It all starts with our thoughts.

So how do we change our thoughts?