Just Say No
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Just Say No

A big Ah Ha hit me years ago: In order to live and love even bigger, I may need to let go of some things that I love.

It’s easy to let go of things that don’t serve you. Things that you hate. That feel awful. But it’s hard to let go of things that you love. That DO serve you in some way. That are rewarding. But ahhh, that’s the catch.

Sometimes those things keep you too comfortable. They help you settle for a life that’s not ALL THAT. A life that you like but don’t love. That’s good but not great. It’s tricky.

For me getting comfortable held me back. Comfort can kill a dream for sure. What I realized was letting go of some things that I love helped me get MORE. It helped me move from Steffani 1.0 to Steffani 2.0.

I let go of a job that I loved to start my own coaching business. I let go of a house in the city that I loved to move into our dream home in the burbs. And now I say NO to things that I love because what used to satisfy and delight Steffani 1.0 doesn’t work any longer.

I’ve said no to speaking gigs. And no to travel. And no to book clubs and invitations and vacays and volunteer ops. Because if they’re not aligned with the newest version of me I’m doing myself a disservice. I’m fueling Steffani 1.0 while trying to elevate my life. That doesn’t work.

It’s not easy to say no. Especially to things you love. But I’m getting better at it. The newest version of me deserves it.

What do you need to say no to?  

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Choose Your Reality.
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Choose Your Reality.

Walking in the woods today I cried…

Those of you that know me well won’t be surprised. My husband teases me that I cry at mall openings. 😆😍 I don’t cry at mall openings. But I do cry often. Almost every day. And it always…ALWAYS…out of gratitude and love for my life.

I cry when I FEEL this existence.

When I see the beauty in the world. When I take a deep breath and sense the essence of who I am. It overwhelms me.

I learned years ago not to get caught up in my thoughts. Not to focus on my circumstances. That who I am is beyond all that. And I experience what I choose to experience. I feel what I choose to feel. Even in hard times (and believe me, I’ve had plenty) I can find a way to be grateful. And see the beauty.

Sure it’s easy to be grateful and love your life on a beach. Or in the woods. Or at a wedding. Or holding a baby. It’s much harder in traffic. (But I do that too.) Or when a babies crying. (Yep. Been there.) Or when you feel stuck or unhappy or like your husband isn’t holding up his end of the deal. See I’ve made up all those stories too. And found my way out of them. Because they’re just that. Stories. They’re only thoughts in our head. They’re not reality.

We choose our reality.

And I choose my reality to be one based in gratitude and love for my life. It’s all a choice. A POWERFUL choice.

While driving home from our lake house I went through the drive-through at Starbucks. The man over the speaker was so kind and sweet. And when I saw him in person he was soulful and loving. While just handing me a green tea. And so I cried. Again. So grateful that I got to experience that beauty. 

Nothing else matters. It’s all just a dream. A movie. Playing in our head. And we write the script.

If you don’t like your life. Change your thoughts. Change your perspective. Write a new script.

It’s ALL possible.

And I’m here if you need me…I’ll be crying. 😊

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If you want a better life….
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If you want a better life….

You have to change something.  

We often want MORE but we don’t DO MORE.  It’s a simple formula.  If you want to upgrade your life.  Upgrade your daily habits.

It’s so simple.  Not EASY, but SIMPLE.

Our lives are made up of our daily habits.  

But we often don’t put any effort into consciously creating those daily habits.  We don’t install daily habits that will enhance and fuel a better life. A life we really desire.   Most of us try to create a new habit.  We make a plan and start doing it. We go to yoga more.  Start a gratitude practice.  We try to be more loving to our partners.  We write a new affirmation. And decide we’re going to be more present.  But then… We STOP DOING IT!  

If you’ve done a lot of internal work, like I have, then you know what you need to do.  You have a lot of tools in your toolkit.  You know what daily habits will support your new desires.

You don’t need to learn more processes.  You just need to APPLY them. Consistently. And you have to create new HABITS.

What works for me, is tracking and measuring those habits.  And having someone hold me accountable. Only then do I  create consistently what I WANT.  Only then do I really make a powerful positive change in my life.  

If you want a better life.  Create better habits.

This is something I have mastered and LOVE to do.  I help women discover what they really want, why they want it, then create the new daily habits to support it.  AND, I hold them accountable until they get it.

Simple formula.  POWERFUL results.  

next level life mastermindIf you’d like some support with this I have a Next Level Life Mastermind starting in June.  It’s the most powerful program I’ve ever taught. You can still join us. And in 10 weeks your life will be unrecognizable.  You’ll make more progress in 10 weeks towards the life of your dreams then you have in the last few years.

 

Your new daily habits will get you there.  This is the coaching, the community and the accountability you’ll need to skyrocket your life to a totally new level.  

June 11th we officially start the sisterhood.  

June 21st-24th we meet.  In person. Total luxury.  Total commitment.

August 17th we celebrate our new fantasy lives.  

If you’re ready, apply here.  I’m ready to support you and help you make this happen.