How You Can Get Through These Hard Times With More Stability And Strength.
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How You Can Get Through These Hard Times With More Stability And Strength.

It’s not easy to ride this roller coaster of emotions. Sharing a few tips here how you can get through these hard times with more stability and strength. Plus a suggestion… check in with your friends. Especially your extrovert friends. This is hard on us all and it might be harder on your strong friends then you think. Go easy on yourself and others.

I also wanted to share a process I’ve been using to boost my mornings. I call these 8 Power Questions. I write them in my journal every morning or in the notes on my phone after gratitude and meditation. Here are the questions: 

Morning

  1. A ‘big message’ I need to remind myself of and keep uppermost in my mind today is…
  1. The 3 goals/objectives I am most committed to completing today are… 
  1. Today I’m most committed to experiencing myself as… 
  1. What is most likely to get in the way/pull me off track from accomplishing my goals and feeling how I want to feel is…
  1. My plan for when that ☝☝☝☝ happens is…
  1. ONE action I could take today to stretch myself and get a LITTLE uncomfortable is…
  1. ONE action I can take to get outside and/or find some joy today is…
  1. I will know that today had been a successful day because…

(What would you have had to have done, experienced or felt?)

Try these out in the morning and see if it sets your day up for success and stay tuned for an evening process… 

Please let me know if there’s anything I can do, from my home to yours, to support you on this journey.

Come from love. Stay safe. Stay healthy. Stay positive. This too shall pass. #wevegotthis

 

Finding joy,

Steffani

Core Values #5: Commitment
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Core Values #5: Commitment

Thanks for reading and following along with these 5 Core Values of mine. (If you missed them, start here.)  I hope it has sparked something in you and helps you tune more into your Core Values or gets your mind turning to look into and create some of your own.  Here’s my 5th and final Core Value.


Core Values # 5: Commitment 

 

I believe we get results when we are committed and that with commitment anything truly is possible.  We can all do hard things, our commitment to anything pushes us, stretches us and can make the impossible possible.  I live this value in my masterminds and inner circles. I commit to them and commit to myself. I support this behavior by committing to my daily habits, to my goals and to my clients.  Commitment is everything to me. When I say I will commit, I commit. And when I commit, I get results. Period.

core valuesA few weeks ago I committed to doing a 5-day detox.  I wanted to do it for months. But I didn’t commit. I only committed when I knew I was really ready to do it.  It wasn’t easy. But once I committed I was ALL IN. Once I committed NOTHING could have stopped me. I followed that detox completely.  I didn’t miss one small detail. Because I committed. And I didn’t just commit to myself, although that is often enough. I committed to my mastermind and to my accountability buddies.  The minute I announced and declared that I was going to do the 5-day detox that’s when it was essentially done. I’ve been living this core value for so long that I know, without a doubt, when I commit to something I do it. 

Commitment is very multifaceted for me.  I am also committed to my happiness, my health and fitness.  I’m committed to my relationship and our connection. I’m committed to my kids and to show up as the best Mom I can be, as the Mom my kids need me to be.  I’m committed to having the best soul experience as humanly possible. That’s a commitment that constantly moves me forward. I’m committed to showing up as the best version of the best vision I have ever had of who I can be. 

Commitment alone is something that drives me.  Through my commitment, I have achieved everything I’ve ever wanted in life.  So far. And I know it will take me anywhere I want to go.

If I want to get in better shape, all I need to do is commit.
If I want to improve my relationship, I need to commit.
If I want to make more money, yep, I commit.

That’s it. Commitment is KEY to getting results.  And that’s why it’s a driving force for me and my 5th Core Value.  

 

One thing I know for sure from doing this Core Values work…. When you are living congruently with your highest values your life will soar.  

 

This work has helped me live my best life.  We’re meant to live abundant, prosperous, joy-filled lives.  That power lies within each of us. By focusing on our Core Values we can consciously create a life we love.


Has this work helped you identify some of your Core Values?  I’d love to hear what they are. Email me and let me know and I’ll hold you accountable to live them. 

Core Value #4: Community
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Core Value #4: Community

I hope you’ve been enjoying these Core Values posts as much as I’ve enjoyed writing them. (Missed the others? Start here.) It’s a powerful practice that I love sharing because I’ve seen far too often that people don’t lean into it. When we really uncover our true Core Values, the ones that are right and true for US, then we can feel more purposeful about life and more intentional about who we’re showing up as. It’s that big and can be that rewarding.  On to my Core Value #4: 


Core Values #4: Community


Have you heard of the Harvard Grant Study? It’s one of the longest-running studies in history. They followed 125 Harvard graduates to determine what was the biggest factor in their success or lack of success in all areas of life. To make a long study short they found that your close personal relationships, #sisterhood, were responsible for your success in your career, your finances, your marital status, your health… yep…EVERYTHING.

The intimate connections you have can literally make or break your life.

 

Let’s face it. Life isn’t easy. It can be hard and filled with drama but it’s a LOT easier with a tribe, sisters, a community by your side. One thing I know for sure is that we can’t climb alone. This life is not meant to be done alone.  We’re meant to do it in partnership, in community.


When my sister died when I was only 11 years old (she was 18) I saw the truest and purest form of community.  Before that day I had friends, extended family friends, and close family, etc. but after that day I had a community of people rallying around me and my family.  Which is something I had never imagined before. At her funeral the line to get into the wake wrapped around the block. There were people for miles it seemed. And of course, we had a lot of people reaching out and offering dinners and supporting us.  But the way the whole community rallied around this tragedy was remarkable. Sure I still felt broken and alone. I felt so sad and so scared that I didn’t know what to make of life. I felt such uncertainty that I questioned everything…. but I also felt incredibly loved and comforted by the outpouring of love and support from our community.  

Our close intimate relationships give us life.  Our COMMUNITY, the one we consciously choose to form around us, is what shapes us.  How important is community to me? It’s everything.

From that early age, I knew the power of community. Yet I still struggled with consciously creating an ideal community around me as I grew older.  There were times when I had no tribe and times when I felt very alone raising my kids and moving to a new town. There were times when people I thought were my community rejected me and where my closest friends turned on me and fell out of my life. I had to keep reinventing what community means to me and consciously creating what was ideal in my life at that time.

Community to me means friendship, support,  vulnerability, and unconditional love. It means consistency, positivity, and commitment.  It’s the thread that holds my whole life together. When that thread has been weak, I’ve been falling apart.  When that thread is strong I’m thriving.

I published an article in a magazine called Illumine about how to find your tribe.  If you’re in search of your tribe or community you can read that article here. 

core valuesHow do we instill a core value like community in our lives in the LeFevour household?  We are all accepting and all-embracing in our house. Everyone is welcome here.

We also go deep.  Meaning we understand the value that vulnerability plays in relationships.  Surface relationships are fine for some, but for me, they don’t hold enough weight.  We like to ask deeper questions, show up for the people in our lives and nourish our relationships with fun, positivity, and consistency so that we all feel the level of support that we need most.

Community is an essential Core Value in my life.  I love to consciously build it online and in real life.  I love to soak in it and savor it for all the ways it enhances my life and everyone’s life in the community. 

What does community mean to you?  Stick around for my 5th and final Core Value coming tomorrow.


PS If you’re looking for an online community that is positive, happy, healthy and doesn’t focus on drama come join my Badass Mom  Society on FB.  It’s the best mom group on the planet. (Self-proclaimed of course)  You’ll find a lot of support and solution-based thinking.  #refreshing We’d love to welcome you.