Are you married to the ONE?
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Are you married to the ONE?

Do we CHOOSE who to love?

I believe every love relationship is a choice.  There’s not “the one” who’s out there for each of us.  There’s a lot of options and we CHOOSE to make someone “THE ONE”.

The amazing Dan Savage spoke at Afest recently and he explained that there are a lot of 8.5’s and 7.2’s and 9.0’s out there.  We choose the ONE and we round up and make that 8.5 our ONE.  Love that analogy.

The power is in the choice.  

Once we CHOOSE that relationship then we need to ACCEPT them, love them unconditionally.  

Yes we can still ask in a loving way for what we need.  We can still hold each other to our greatest selves.  We can still grow together.  Grow individually.  And enhance and improve our lives TOGETHER.  We don’t need to stay stagnant.  We can’t stay stagnant.

I often feel we focus more on how we need our partner to change then we do on our own growth and expansion.  I’m guilty of this too.  When I look at my husband and think about what HE needs…

 

He needs to be more positive

He needs to pay more attention to me

He needs to be more present

 

Can I turn all of that around and see how I need to do the same?  YES YES YES.

We buckled ourselves in to this roller coaster ride together.  The ups and downs the steep climbs, the free falls.  ALL of it.  Why would I ever complain about the ride?  Or the price of admission?

If this is what I need to pay to be with him, to go on this beautiful ride, then I am HAPPY with it.  I can accept it, love it, and even be grateful for it.

When I had this revelation after hearing Dan Savage a few months ago I immediately wanted to share it with John.  Instead…. I APPLIED it first.

What’s the price of admission that I pay to be with him?

A temper?  Some negativity?  Him working long hours?  Not being present?  Lack of communication?  The fact that he never cleans up after making his late night PB&J?

If that’s the price of admission I have to pay for this life.  To be WITH HIM and have these amazing kids and go on this roller coaster ride.  Then I’m all in.  Hell yea.

And believe me, he pays a price to be with me.

The fact that I love to travel.  My obsession with personal development.  The supplements and superfoods that take over every cabinet in our kitchen.

PRICE OF ADMISSION.  Is it worth it?  I sure hope so.

So I applied this lesson first.  And started looking very differently at John.  I was more patient with him.  I stopped trying to change him.  I stopped chasing him around the kitchen asking him to clean his shit up.

And THEN I shared this lesson with him.  And explained how it was helping me to be more unconditionally loving and accepting of him.  He got it.  And saw what my price of admission was.

 

Our LOVE is a CHOICE.  

 

xxx,

Steff

Are you aware of your Universal assignments?
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Are you aware of your Universal assignments?

Do you know your Universal assignments?

I had a Universal assignment to lose my sister when I was 11 years old.

So that I would learn about loss very early on. And would be able to support others through loss later in my life.

I had a Universal assignment to have an alcoholic father.

I chose him so that I would be independent and learn not to depend on men but to take 100% responsibility for my life.

I had a Universal assignment that school didn’t come easy for me.

I placed an order for 2 kids that share the same struggle.

I also believe this is a reward life for me. That I am meant prosper. Another Universal assignment.

My husband and I have a Universal assigment to be together and raise these kids together. AND it’s a Universal assignment that he has a temper and that we’re so incredibly opposite. (Hint: these Universal assignments are also insights into the Price of Admission, mentioned in my last email, meaning things we should NOT bitch about…) 

My son being born early and colicky was a Universal assignment. I was meant to experience that so that I would really understand what women go through and so that I could more appreciate the good times.

I have a Universal assignment to travel the world. It lights my soul on fire.

I have a Universal assignment to be surrounded by transformational leaders and amazing humanitarians.

So I’ll be challenged to raise the bar and always inspired to do better.

I have a Universal assignment to teach what I know. I can’t experience anything without then teaching it.

I have a Universal assignment to help Moms find more lasting happiness.

It’s why I’m here. And what fulfills me.

What are your Universal assignments?

THE POWER OF INTENTIONS
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THE POWER OF INTENTIONS

I launched a rocket of desire before this school year for the right and perfect teacher.

I got specific in my request.

I asked the Universe for a teacher who was…

Positive. Focused on gratitude. Catered to all learning styles. Very sweet and nurturing. Used a lot of verbal and visual cues. A great communicator. And who really understood my kids needs for breaks and movement.

I can say with 100% certainty that I got the right and perfect teacher for my kids this year.

What a blessing.
What a relief.

THE POWER OF INTENTION.

In Zoes classroom this morning I sat in on their morning meeting before a field trip.

Listen to some of this magic!!!

They greeted each other by looking in each other’s eyes and shaking hands and saying good morning in Japanese. Yep, Japanese!

THEN they went around the room and shared something they were grateful for!!! (Hold back the tears…)

How amazing!! To do that every morning?! Starting your day at school focused on gratitude?! (You know I was crying…)

So so grateful for this amazing teacher. And for this beautiful day. And for this life experience!!

Intention is a POWERFUL thing.

Have you set a powerful intention lately?

What are you waiting for?

Set one now,

Steff