Choose Your Reality.
steffani

Choose Your Reality.

Walking in the woods today I cried…

Those of you that know me well won’t be surprised. My husband teases me that I cry at mall openings. 😆😍 I don’t cry at mall openings. But I do cry often. Almost every day. And it always…ALWAYS…out of gratitude and love for my life.

I cry when I FEEL this existence.

When I see the beauty in the world. When I take a deep breath and sense the essence of who I am. It overwhelms me.

I learned years ago not to get caught up in my thoughts. Not to focus on my circumstances. That who I am is beyond all that. And I experience what I choose to experience. I feel what I choose to feel. Even in hard times (and believe me, I’ve had plenty) I can find a way to be grateful. And see the beauty.

Sure it’s easy to be grateful and love your life on a beach. Or in the woods. Or at a wedding. Or holding a baby. It’s much harder in traffic. (But I do that too.) Or when a babies crying. (Yep. Been there.) Or when you feel stuck or unhappy or like your husband isn’t holding up his end of the deal. See I’ve made up all those stories too. And found my way out of them. Because they’re just that. Stories. They’re only thoughts in our head. They’re not reality.

We choose our reality.

And I choose my reality to be one based in gratitude and love for my life. It’s all a choice. A POWERFUL choice.

While driving home from our lake house I went through the drive-through at Starbucks. The man over the speaker was so kind and sweet. And when I saw him in person he was soulful and loving. While just handing me a green tea. And so I cried. Again. So grateful that I got to experience that beauty. 

Nothing else matters. It’s all just a dream. A movie. Playing in our head. And we write the script.

If you don’t like your life. Change your thoughts. Change your perspective. Write a new script.

It’s ALL possible.

And I’m here if you need me…I’ll be crying. 😊

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Masterminds Work and Here’s Why
steffani

Masterminds Work and Here’s Why

I started running my first accountability/mastermind group over 25 years ago. Right out of college, as a theater arts major, I started an actors group. I wanted to surround myself with more actors, successful actors and help even newer actors. We met monthly and held each other accountable for auditions and agent submissions. We shared the latest classes and monologues and read lines together. We celebrated wins and cheered each other on. It was powerful to say the least. I was running that group for a few years. And during that time I landed my dream agent. Booked my first commercial. Got a film gig. And much more. It helped me achieve all my dreams in acting at that time.

Accountability became my new drug. I saw the power in it and used it in MANY other areas of my life. Because it works. Many of us have trouble being self-motivated. And holding ourselves accountable for daily tasks or big things we want to achieve. Here’s one thing I know for sure after running groups for over 25 years.

We’ll do more for another than we’ll do for ourselves.

It’s true. Because if I start showing up with nothing done, I give everyone else permission to slack off. It’s true. When I don’t achieve my goals then it’s ok for you not to. But when I want you to have your dream as much or more than I want mine, then I’m gonna show up. For YOU and for ME.

Alone we can go fast. But together we can go farther.

You see it all the time. Your gurus are participating in Masterminds. The most successful people in the world are attending the most successful masterminds in the world. Why? Because they work!

When like-minded people get together to support each other, everyone wins. There’s support. There’s accountability. There’s a level of friendly competition. And most importantly, there are other people who have done what you want to do. They’ve been there. Gone through it. Experienced it. And have come out on the other side. They’re happy to show you how it’s done. They’re also THERE FOR YOU. And they BELIEVE IN YOU.

All the masterminds that I’ve been a part of have believed in me before I believed in myself. They saw my greatness. They KNEW I could achieve my dreams. It was me that needed to catch up.

After that actor’s group, I started accountability/mastermind groups around Health and Fitness, My Relationship, Career, Writing, Motherhood. I can’t even count all of the groups I’ve run and attended. I’ve run some that were 2 weeks long and 2 years long. They’re all EFFECTIVE.

Here’s what I’ve learned over 25 years regarding what a great accountability/mastermind group needs:

  1. The right curated people who have shared interests and shared beliefs. (The belief piece is key here. And the random groups are not as effective as the curated ones.)
  2. Awesome content. Something to keep everyone engaged for the long haul.
  3. Collaboration. Everyone needs to share their talents and expertise.
  4. Commitment. People have to understand the power of commitment and fully commit mind body and soul to the group.
  5. Consistency. Weekly is best and definitely most effective but the group can agree on the consistency. They just all need to show up EVERY time.

When these 5 pieces are put together… MAGIC happens. People do things they’ve always dreamed of doing. They create new daily habits. They think outside of the box. The love and support is overwhelming. Suddenly everything seems possible.

Masterminds work! I can personally guarantee it.

XXX,

Next Level Live Mastermind

Steff

PS If you’re ready for a life-changing mastermind my Next Level Life Mastermind is starting in June. A small group of women, 6 months of coaching, community, and accountability, and 2 LUXURY retreats. Click Here to apply. And make this the year of your dreams!

Subconscious Thoughts
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Subconscious Thoughts

  • By steffani
  • March 14, 2018
  • Mindset

The Universe isn’t listening to only our conscious, dominant thoughts and words. It responds to our subconscious thoughts too. When I started studying the law of attraction and quantum physics, I also dove deep into neuroscience. You have to. They’re all interconnected.

Neuroscience research reveals that our conscious thoughts make up only 7% of what we’re thinking. Only 7%. Wow. We need to get the other 93% on board.

So when we have a long overriding fear, worry or negative thought, we place an order. When we unintentionally expect that there will be tension at that family party: Order received.

When we expect our husband to be in a bad mood: Wish granted.

The only way to fix it is to be more conscious about our thoughts and to get the other 93% on board. Be more proactive. Focus on and think the thoughts you do want, so you’re not placing orders for what you don’t.

The good news is the subconscious is a yes machine, meaning it responds to every seed you plant with a yes.

“I’m feeling better.” Yes.
“My relationship is improving.” Yes.
“My kids are actually getting along.” Yes.
“I love spending time with my in-laws.” Yes.
“My business is booming.” Yes.
“I see less and less cellulite on my thighs every day.” Yes.

The more we program our subconscious, the more it responds. You’re literally reprograming your subconscious brain. And now you need to keep reprogramming those thoughts so that those orders will be fulfilled.

http://www.amazon.com/Return-Love-Reflections-Principles-Miracles/dp/0060927488/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1520455501&sr=1-1&keywords=a+return+to+love+by+marianne+williamson&dpID=41aNp7HYQWL&preST=_SY291_BO1,204,203,200_QL40_&dpSrc=srch
A Return To Love by Marianne Williamson, and it totally turned my life around.

I have another thoughts-creating story that was totally subconscious. When I was nineteen, I read the book A Return To Love by Marianne Williamson, and it totally turned my life around. It was the first time I really understood forgiveness or thought about consciously creating my life.

I credit that book for starting me on this path to personal growth that I’ve been on for almost thirty years now. When anyone asked me how I got into this work, I would credit that book and Marianne Williamson. I hosted book clubs on that book. I went to see her speak whenever I could. I read everything else she ever wrote.

Many years later, I was volunteering at a conference called “Celebrate Your Life.” They have amazing speakers like Neale Donald Walsh, the late Wayne Dyer, Sonia Choquette, and Marianne Williamson to name a few. As a volunteer, you never know what job you might have. So when I got my assignment, I was so excited, but not surprised: I got assigned as Marianne Williamson’s speaker’s assistant. When I saw that, I knew that my subconscious placed those orders.

I got to meet her at the airport in a limo. Take her back to the hotel. Check her into her hotel room. Bring her to and from her keynote. We had many long conversations, and she was as gracious and graceful as I had ever imagined. We even did some yoga together in her hotel room before she went onstage to speak. Yeah, so that happened. #wow

At one point, she saw my book in my bag—the book I’d had since 1999 that followed me from house to house from college through adulthood. She asked if she could see it. It was dog-eared and highlighted and thoroughly used. She said it was a dream come true for an author to see a book like that and asked me if she could sign it for me. Um, yes, please. What a beautiful order I had placed. More of those subconscious orders, please.

You can’t expect great things when you’re thinking lousy thoughts. So we need to change our thoughts. As badass moms, we need to start focusing on more of the good in our lives. We need to shift our thoughts to place the orders that we do want. To start aligning with the next-level life that we know we deserve and that’s within our reach. It all starts with our thoughts.

So how do we change our thoughts?