Releasing Doubt
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Releasing Doubt

I used to question everything.  I used to feel uncertain all the time.  I used to doubt my every move.  Am I living in the right place? Working at the right job? Dating the right guy? Am I kind enough? Smart enough? Pretty enough?  Am I talented? What is my passion? Do I have what it takes? My mind was consumed with these thoughts of ‘not enough ness’ and thoughts of doubt and uncertainty. 

Then one day, 15 years ago, I had an epiphany.  And it came from a source I NEVER imagined it would. It came from a psychic!  (Hang on…let me explain……) 

First of all, this wasn’t just any psychic reading, it was with a world renowned psychic and spiritual teacher Sonia Choquette.  She lived near me in Chicago.   I had been studying her work and similar teachers for years not even sure if I believed in all this at first but was fascinated by it.  Fifteen years ago she did readings in person at her house.  I had a friend who went to see her and loved it so I booked one.  It was expensive (like $500 which seems like nothing now) but I trusted it would be worth it. 

At the reading she said she would share with me what karma I had brought into this lifetime, any spiritual blocks I had up in this lifetime and my life’s purpose.  WHAT?!  I mean who wouldn’t pay $500 to know their life’s purpose?! So I walked in the room, said hello, and she started talking.  She only knew my name and my birthdate.  I said nothing else.  She told me some amazing things.  I could go through the whole reading and you would be blown away by some of the accuracy.  But that’s not what this is about.  This is about my take away from the reading.  It’s about how it changed me. 

My big takeaway was this….

Everything in my life was unfolding exactly as it should.  EVERYTHING.  Who I was dating was meant to be.  Where I lived was meant to be.  What I was doing was meant to be.  Hell the fries I had for lunch were meant to be.  EVERYTHING.  My life was unfolding exactly as it should be and it was unfolding perfectly for the progression of my soul. 

The minute I left the basement office of her house I was a changed person.  I sat in my car in tears over all I had heard. over all I woke up too and all I realized. And my doubt was gone.  All of it.  I knew with certainty that my life was meant to be exactly as it was.  No mistakes.  No missed steps, no missed opportunities.  And…that I could shape it anyway I chose to. 

Now here’s the fun part. My friend who went to the reading and the friends I referred to her later didn’t have a similar experience.  Quite the opposite.  They wanted to hear and feel and wake up to the same things I did but their readings were VERY different. 

About 6 months later I was telling my friend about the reading and my breakthrough and I remembered I had the whole thing on tape.  I had a small cassette tape that I recorded the reading on so I pulled it out and we listened.  We were both astonished.  Not at the accuracy of the reading but by the lack of guidance that led to my breakthrough.  My friend couldn’t see AT ALL how I had found my big AH HA.  She couldn’t see why I left there and released all my self doubt or why I now had a new sense of purpose and certainty and I couldn’t either.  The truth of what I realized was…..I gave that to myself.  

It’s not the experiences we have that determine our reality. Nothing has deep breakthroughs or deep meaning unless we CHOOSE it. We CHOOSE the meaning. I chose to have a breakthrough.  I CHOSE to see my life was unfolding exactly as it should be.  I CHOSE to release all my self doubt and embrace my life in a new way.  We choose the meaning. We choose our breakthroughs.  We choose our reality. 

We also choose our doubts, our fears, our limits and what keeps us stuck. You don’t need a world renowned psychic to tell you that your life is unfolding perfectly.  Neither did I.  We can accept and embrace that at any time.  Actually let me help you…. 

YOUR LIFE IS UNFOLDING EXACTLY AS IT’S MEANT TO,  EXACTLY AS YOU NEED IT TO FOR THE PROGRESSION OF YOUR SOUL.

There.  Now you know.  And all your doubt is released and gone. Now what.  Now what will you do with this one wild and precious life? 

I made big changes after my epiphany but they were all internal to start. I let go.  I let God.  I stayed in flow.  I stopped doubting.  I started living.  I said YES more often.  I questioned nothing my heart said.  I focused on what I DID want.  I launched bigger dreams.  I  believed more –  in me,  in my life. in my path and in my purpose. 

It was a life changing reading but not for the reasons that I saw at first. What do you need to let go of?  What do you need to choose next?

 

Here’s WHY You DON’T Have What You WANT….
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Here’s WHY You DON’T Have What You WANT….

I am HOT about this topic.  Because I’ve been there.  I’ve been in that place where I wasn’t manifesting what I wanted and I had NO idea why.  I knew about the basics of LOA and that like energy attracts like energy.  I had some big dreams and goals.  I did plenty of vision boards. But I wasn’t manifesting.  Now that I’ve been doing this for almost 3 decades I know why.  

In this quick video I break this down:  If you DON’T have what you WANT.  You’re most likely doing one of these 3 things.  Check out the video and identify which of those 3 things you’re doing and how it’s keeping you back from a life you really love.  

We know what we need.  We need more tools and more teachings so we can feel really confident and have a garage full of the right tools that will get us where we want to be.  We need to control our triggers, master our mindset and take our power back.  What we’re missing is the coaching, the community and the accountability.  

I have a 21 Day Badass Mindset Mini Course starting soon.  You can join this Badass group of women on this powerful journey for 50% off for a limited time.  For only $97 you’ll get 21 days worth of tools to help you climb up your mountain (where all your dreams live) and achieve all the things you want to achieve in this life. The best part is you’ll have a sisterhood to cheer you on along the way.  This is the same content I teach in my high-end masterminds and make sure every one of my clients has this strong foundation to build their goals on. I’ll be jumping in to do lots of FB lives too….   

I hope you’ll join us. 

What our kids need/WE need most
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What our kids need/WE need most

I SEE YOU.  I HEAR YOU.  YOU’RE VALUED.

This, in the end, is all our kids want from us.

They want a Mom who can be present enough to see them for who they are.  To listen to their truth.  (And sometimes their lies) and to love them for who they are.  Unconditionally. Even when they’re being “bad”.  Even when they’re making poor choices.  Even when they’re exploding or having meltdowns.

Our kids want this.  Our kids NEED this.  But we don’t give it to them.  

Why?

Because we don’t even give it to ourselves.

We don’t see ourselves and because we’re so filled with shame and self-judgments the only thing we have to offer our kids is a shell of ourselves.

Sure we can fake it.  And make everything look ok on the outside.  Put our game face on and make dinner while scrolling through social media and put our kids to bed sometimes peacefully and usually only after 2 glasses of wine.

Yea.  That works.  But not for long.

Because it will all come crashing down.  Like it has before.  It might show up differently every time.  It can be disguised as gaining weight over the holidays. Or shopping far too much and racking up the credit card bill.  Or not paying attention to our marriage and letting our sex life slip away while fighting more and dating each other less.

But once we come to see our own PERSONAL POWER and really SEE ourselves for who we are – powerful souls having a human experience – we can shape our lives any way we want. Admit it.  You know that’s in there.

Once we come to recognize, admit to and see our power then game over.  All the pain and suffering can end and we take our power back.  Only then can we GIVE it to our kids.  Only then can we truly transform our lives and stop living a different existence on the inside than on the outside.

Once I came face to face with my power.  It changed my life forever.  

It changed my marriage forever.
It changed my family forever.
It changed my business’s forever.
It changed my future forever.

But what changed? How was I able to access my higher self and start showing up in the world as who I really wanted to be?  

I started loving ME.
I started coming to know ME.
I started to forgive myself.
I started to understand myself.
I started to connect with that divine voice inside of me.
I started changing my stories and writing new ones.
I started creating a new personal reality.

So where do you start?

There are many places. But my invitation to you is to join me for my 5 Essential Shifts Livestream Series.  It’s 100% free.

These 5 shifts will help you:

~Uncover what’s not working, so you can finally shift that SH!T
~Discover your power (yep it’s there)
~Finally BELIEVE you are worthy and deserving of all life has to offer
~Get rid of the guilt and anxiety that’s been plaguing you for decades (admit it, it’s still there)
~Stop blaming anyone else, yes that includes your husband, even if he doesn’t help out much
~End the bad habits that have kept you, overweight, broke and feeling under-appreciated
~And to finally, dare I say it, LOVE yourself and your life exactly as it is 

Here’s the great news.  You are in control of your life.  You just forgot for a while.  And I’m here to remind you, and to give you the keys that will unlock the door to your best life.  I hope you’ll join me.

We’re popping up a Facebook group just for this live training.  So we can get real, raw and vulnerable.  (Don’t get scared….this leads to tremendous breakthroughs)

Click here to sign up and start your journey back to YOU.