HOW TO CHANGE YOUR REALITY
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HOW TO CHANGE YOUR REALITY

If you are living a REALITY that you don’t want to be living. I can promise you, that you’re thoughts, words and actions have been focused on that reality.

If you want to change your current reality. You can’t start with the ACTIONS first. Because your thoughts and words and feelings are still aligned with it.

You have to CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS first. You have to change your words and your feelings. Your actions can help shift those but you can’t change it though action alone.

To create a new really.

SHIFT YOUR THOUGHTS.

How can you change your thoughts?

Create a cancel process
Shift into gratitude
Move your physical body
Put on music
Use tapping
Do the Byron Katie work
Call a friend
Start talking about what you DO want
Use Future Pulls

Align your THOUGHTS with your DESIRES and you’ll create a REALITY that you DO want.

Are you creating your ideal reality?

If you would like to manifest your ideal reality, shoot me an email. This is one area I have spent 25 years perfecting 🙂

I’m here for you,

Steff

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If you want MORE I totally get it…

First of all…it’s OK.

It’s OK to want MORE.  Even as a mom with amazing kids it’s OK to WANT MORE.

Now that that’s out of the way… (step aside mom guilt) I have MORE to say.

You also don’t need to settle for LESS.

Yep.  I said it.  STOP SETTLING.

Stop settling for less joy
Stop settling for overwhelm
Stop settling for a relationship that’s not as romantic as you want it to be
Stop settling in a space where you yell every damn day
Stop settling for a job you don’t love
Stop living in a  house you don’t love
Stop eating food you don’t love
Stop living a life where you’re settling for less than you DESERVE 

Ut oh, now we’re opening up a whole new can of worms…here come the unworthy thoughts and feelings.

I get it. You are not alone!

But deep down inside I WANT MORE.  And even deeper down I KNOW I DESERVE MORE.

If you know that too.  Then it’s time.

It’s time to expect MORE!  

MORE out of life!
MORE from your health.
MORE from your relationships.
MORE from your parenting.
MORE from yourself.
MORE LOVE.
MORE laughter.
MORE balance.

See, we KNOW we are in control. But this Mom journey sometimes has us feeling WAY out of control.

And its time to take back control.

Because WE create our THOUGHTS. Our THOUGHTS create our INTENTIONS. And our INTENTIONS create our REALITY.

It’s that simple. Not easy. But that simple.

In my Happi Mom Squad, we take back control.

Of our THOUGHTS
Of our EXCUSES
Of our WORDS
Of our negative self talk
Of our REACTIONS
Of our limiting beliefs
Of our STATE
Of our FEELINGS
Of our LIVES
Of our happiness!

Because THIS is the type of Mom that we want to BE.  THIS is the type of Mom our kids deserve.  This is the type of mom who’s living a life we’re all striving for.  THIS is the type of Mom the world needs more of.

If you’re a Mom on a mission and you want MORE we know how you feel. And we’re here to climb with you.

 

How to recover from an EPIC mom fail …
steffani

How to recover from an EPIC mom fail …

Hello friends,

Recently I booked a special trip with my 8 year old son Jack.  We were going to Cancun, Mexico to meet up with friends of mine and help on a service trip.  We were spending 3 days helping to support a Dad with 3 boys and rebuild their house and their lives.

We were SO excited.  Jack was excited to finally join me on some of my favorite work.  And I was excited for Jack to meet some of the most inspiring people in my life and some of my favorite friends.  For him to be in that energy was a dream come true for me.

I woke up at 5 am, bags were packed, grabbed our passports and O! M! G!   My sons passport was expired!!!!!!

Holy SHIT!

Worst Mom EVER.
Worst day EVER.

Have you ever had one of those epic mom fails?  Probably not as big as this one.  This makes missing Zoe’s first recital because you got the day wrong look like peanuts.  Or leaving the hockey equipment at home when you arrive at an away game look like a slight oversight.  Totally forgivable.

This. THIS was a fail of EPIC proportion.

At first I was just going to stay home with him.  Forget the trip all together. How could I possibly go WITHOUT him?  This was planned for US, not just me.  But I was bringing important equipment down for the experience.  More people shouldn’t have to suffer from my fail.

As the reality of the situation hit me I started to shut down.  I went to the airport, found the nearest bathroom and wept.

Why is this happening?
Did I make the right decision?
How could I let this happen?
Will he ever forgive me?
Will my husband ever forgive me?
How can I recover from this?

I wiped my tears, settled down on my flight and made a plan.

Here’s how I chose to recover from this EPIC Mom Fail:

#1.  Stay in the present moment. 
Thinking about what SHOULD have been or could have been was not healthy.  I had to try and stay in the present moment.

#2. Close your eyes and forgive. 
Beating myself up about it wouldn’t help anyone.  It would only make me frustrated, upset and irritable.

#3. Let it go and TRUST the Universe has a bigger plan. 
Elsa is a genius.  When I let it go I started to see why this was meant to be.  As the days unfolded I realized how much more I could do with Jack not there.  It didn’t make up for the missed experience with him but it did profoundly impact these boys lives in a much bigger way than I could have with Jack along.

#4. Safeguard your happiness.
When I first arrived, even with this plan, I was sulking.  All I could do was look around and think about how much better it would be with Jack there.  How much fun he would have.  How it would impact him.  I had to shake it off and do things to bring myself joy.  A walk on the beach.  Morning yoga.  Laughing with friends.  A margarita the size of my head.  Whatever it takes.  Focus on your happiness because it’s your JOB and your job only.  No one else will.

#5.  Make a new plan. 
I talked with Jack and asked him “what can I do to make this up to you?”  We had an overnight in the city, he got a hamster (ewwww, major sacrifice) and there was a visit to Chuckie Cheese (even bigger sacrifice!!!!)  Jack forgave me.  And we’re excited to plan another trip to go on together.

I hope you don’t ever have a Mom fail of epic proportion.  But if you do follow these steps and you’ll hopefully get on the other side of it a little faster.

Share with me, what was YOUR epic Mom fail? Because we’re all in this together and I could use the camaraderie. 🙂

Loving this life, fails and all,
Steffani