When you allow the insignificant actions of other people to determine your mood, you lose. You give your power away. I hear from my clients on a daily basis that “someone” threw their day off.
“My Mom is so passive aggressive.”
“My husband is so negative.”
“My kids’ words are so hurtful.”
“My sister is so judgmental.”
And then we shrink. We forget our power and we fall back into old patterns and behavior. And guess what……??? We do exactly what we’re shaming them for doing. We act passive aggressively. We get negative and judgmental. We’re hurtful with our words about them. We’re being a smaller version of ourselves. And we’re also feeling superior and kind of like a victim and the hero all at once. Our ego is in heaven. But it’s not enough just to have this insight and hope we’ll do better next time. Hope is not a plan.
We need to create new patterns and behaviors.
We need to create a new personality. One that won’t get rattled by the insignificant words or actions from someone else. That new personality can be unshakeable. Only then can we design a new reality. One that will lead to our dream life.
We think it’s easy, but it’s not. It takes work. It takes new tools. It takes accountability. These new patterns and behaviors don’t make themselves. We are continuously tested and pushed. But listen, isn’t this life worth it?
The work pays off when we find more inner peace. When we have more joy-filled days. When we don’t get triggered, we control our reactions and all of that leads to more happy moments and special memories.
If we don’t do the work we’re missing out. Life is too short to live it in judgment of other people. There’s a better way.
Where are YOU giving away your power?
