I wasn’t always this happy….
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I wasn’t always this happy….

There were plenty of times in my life when I wasn’t happy at all.

There was a time

  • in college when I wasn’t happy…
  • in my adult life when I was living in the city that I wasn’t happy…
  • when I was married and I wasn’t happy…
  • when I had kids and I wasn’t happy…

It goes on and on.

But I learned a little trick.   

What I did each time when I wasn’t happy is this:  I took on my happiness like it was a full-time JOB and it became progressively easier.  

I did everything I could to

  • create a happier life…
  • get into a happier state…
  • have happier days…

so that I could FEEL BETTER.

Once I was feeling better, I was able to become more GRATEFUL.  And being more grateful, helped me enjoy life more.  It all created an upward spiral.

Sometimes it takes work to get happy. It’s not always easy. It’s not always natural.

People think that I have a really easy, happy life. But they don’t understand all the work that came into being this happy.

Creating a Happiness Recipe 

There is one simple tool I use with all of my clients and we often revisit it.  We simply list the things that can be done every day that make us happy.  What can you do to shift easily into a happy state?  What’s on your Happy List?

Here are a few things on my list:

  • Listening to uplifting music
  • Eating dark chocolate
  • Feeling the sun on my skin
  • Exercising
  • Being out in nature
  • Walking my dog
  • Calling a friend
  • Being near water
  • Taking a long shower
  • Listening to an audiobook or podcast
  • Being on a beach
  • Driving my convertible
  • Drinking red wine
  • Visualizing/meditating/breathwork

Everyone’s Happiness Recipe is going to look different. You just have to know what works best for you.  What is it that shifts you into a happier state?

Then, all you have to do is more of that.  DAILY.

And watch the magic unfold in your life.

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How You FEEL Matters.
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How You FEEL Matters.

How Feelings Manifest Our Reality

We manifest our reality not just from our thoughts – (Sooo sooo important), not just from our words – (Equally as important).  But also from our feelings. In fact, I think how we FEEL is the most important of all.

It’s the feeling that we’re after anyway right?

We all want to FEEL better.  We want more inner peace. We want more joy. We want more happiness and contentment.  We don’t want the stress and the drama. We don’t want the hustle.

What we’re after is what the hustle brings. It brings freedom and ease. But only if we let it, and we let it by feeling first.

You see, it’s not when you have it all that you’ll finally be HAPPY, it’s when you’re HAPPY that you’ll actually have it all.

Our feelings matter. 

Now I know what you’re thinking… here come the “yea buts”…

“Yea but my husband is so negative”

“Yea but my job sucks”

“Yea but I don’t have any money or time or support”

All those “Yea buts” place an order.

When you think that and focus on that and FEEL that you’ll get more of it.

You need a clean slate.

You need to start FEELING how you want to feel. And you need to feel it now. Time is running out.

Don’t wait another minute to feel better. You have to start today.

What can you do today to FEEL better?

If you need support, join me in the Badass Mom Society. This is what I do. I’ve got this mastered. ️️

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True Happiness, as It Turns Out, Doesn’t Happen Overnight
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True Happiness, as It Turns Out, Doesn’t Happen Overnight

The J.O.B 

I took on this mission like a J. O. B. Diving headfirst into the world of personal development, I read every book from Zen and The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance to Power Vs Force.  I studied every guru out there: Pema Chodron, Wayne Dyer, Neale Donald Walsh, Eckhart Tolle, Oprah (Oh wow, did I watch a lot of Oprah).

The climb was long and hard at times, but I found my way to the top of the mountain and even started downhill (The view, the trees, the easy road ahead! I’d done it!).  Then at 35, I got married to the man of my dreams.

Brand. New.  Mountain.

At 38, I had Jack. He was seven weeks early. And then he cried for six straight months.  

Zoe came along at 40. And I realized I was only at base camp.  

There in front of me stood Mt. Everest.

I had to start climbing again…

So, that’s exactly what I did, and what I do. Every single day.

I climb for my kids – So they don’t have a mom who acts all happy on Facebook but yells at them every night.

I climb for my husband – So he’s not married to a woman who gets resentful when he works late and punishes him by withholding sex.

I climb for my siblings – Because they already lost one sibling and don’t deserve to lose another—to anger, sorrow, frustration or stress.

I climb for other moms – Moms who know deep down that they deserve more and desperately want to go to the edge but are afraid to even venture out of their tents.

The journey isn’t easy. It’s long, hard and treacherous at times. But one thing I know for sure is that we can’t climb alone. We need a team. We need a whole village of sisters to help us up this mountain.  We need Oprah and Deepak and wine (So. Much. Wine.).

So, I’m asking you to climb. To climb for you, to climb with me, to climb for your kids, for your relationship, for the happiness that you know you deserve.

Who’s with me?

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