HOW TO CHANGE YOUR REALITY
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HOW TO CHANGE YOUR REALITY

If you are living a REALITY that you don’t want to be living. I can promise you, that you’re thoughts, words and actions have been focused on that reality.

If you want to change your current reality. You can’t start with the ACTIONS first. Because your thoughts and words and feelings are still aligned with it.

You have to CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS first. You have to change your words and your feelings. Your actions can help shift those but you can’t change it though action alone.

To create a new really.

SHIFT YOUR THOUGHTS.

How can you change your thoughts?

Create a cancel process
Shift into gratitude
Move your physical body
Put on music
Use tapping
Do the Byron Katie work
Call a friend
Start talking about what you DO want
Use Future Pulls

Align your THOUGHTS with your DESIRES and you’ll create a REALITY that you DO want.

Are you creating your ideal reality?

If you would like to manifest your ideal reality, shoot me an email. This is one area I have spent 25 years perfecting 🙂

I’m here for you,

Steff

steffani

If you want MORE I totally get it…

First of all…it’s OK.

It’s OK to want MORE.  Even as a mom with amazing kids it’s OK to WANT MORE.

Now that that’s out of the way… (step aside mom guilt) I have MORE to say.

You also don’t need to settle for LESS.

Yep.  I said it.  STOP SETTLING.

Stop settling for less joy
Stop settling for overwhelm
Stop settling for a relationship that’s not as romantic as you want it to be
Stop settling in a space where you yell every damn day
Stop settling for a job you don’t love
Stop living in a  house you don’t love
Stop eating food you don’t love
Stop living a life where you’re settling for less than you DESERVE 

Ut oh, now we’re opening up a whole new can of worms…here come the unworthy thoughts and feelings.

I get it. You are not alone!

But deep down inside I WANT MORE.  And even deeper down I KNOW I DESERVE MORE.

If you know that too.  Then it’s time.

It’s time to expect MORE!  

MORE out of life!
MORE from your health.
MORE from your relationships.
MORE from your parenting.
MORE from yourself.
MORE LOVE.
MORE laughter.
MORE balance.

See, we KNOW we are in control. But this Mom journey sometimes has us feeling WAY out of control.

And its time to take back control.

Because WE create our THOUGHTS. Our THOUGHTS create our INTENTIONS. And our INTENTIONS create our REALITY.

It’s that simple. Not easy. But that simple.

In my Happi Mom Squad, we take back control.

Of our THOUGHTS
Of our EXCUSES
Of our WORDS
Of our negative self talk
Of our REACTIONS
Of our limiting beliefs
Of our STATE
Of our FEELINGS
Of our LIVES
Of our happiness!

Because THIS is the type of Mom that we want to BE.  THIS is the type of Mom our kids deserve.  This is the type of mom who’s living a life we’re all striving for.  THIS is the type of Mom the world needs more of.

If you’re a Mom on a mission and you want MORE we know how you feel. And we’re here to climb with you.

 

steffani

What you can do about BAD NEWS…

This news makes me sick.  

I try not to watch the news but you can’t escape it.  

I woke up this morning with my husband sharing the news of another mass shooting this time in Las Vegas.  And my stomach literally hurts.  I get thrown off my routine.  I feel sad and depressed.  I can’t just ignore these tragedies.

And I know too that it doesn’t help.

No amount of sadness or depression on my part will help end these senseless acts of violence. What will help?  When I pick myself up and get my head back on track.  

So here’s what I do….

First, I feel it… BRIEFLY.  

What we focus on expands, right?  So if we wallow in this misery in this tragedy in this sadness for long we’re only creating more of it.  I try to BRIEFLY feel my feelings over it.  Sending love and prayers to those victums and everyone effected by it.  And then I try and raise my vibration.  That doesn’t mean I ignore it.  I can still bring awareness to mental illness because there’s no doubt that played a key role here.  I can still peacefully voice my opinion on gun laws.  But I want to raise my vibration as quickly as possible if I want to help at all.  

Next, focus on my HAPPY RECIPE.    

We all have things that make us happy.  If the word happy is a trigger for you exchange it for whatever you’d like, inner peace, contentment, joy. Any of those are a step up from sadness and sorrow.  To raise our vibration we need to do what makes us feel good.  What makes us happy.

Do you have a list?

If not, here’s a big bold move you can make to serve the world…. MAKE ONE NOW.

Make a list of all the little and big things that make you happy.

Here are a few things on my list to get you started.

Be outside in nature
Spending time with like minded people
Uplifting music
Exercise
Dark chocolate
Listening to personal development books, podcasts, etc
Jumping on a trampoline (because who can do that and be sad?)
Red wine, specifically Freakshow cabernet #obsessed
Playing catch with Jack
Playing statue with Zoe
Date night with John
The sound of waves crashing on a beach 

I could list 100 more things.  Literally. Once you get started it will flow out of you.  Everyones list is unique.  We might have a few things the same but MANY that are totally different. One of my clients said it made her happy to wear red lipstick.  Clearly she should be putting that on EVERY MORNING.  Especially on days like this.

Now the next step is to focus on that list.  Look at that list like it’s your J.O.B.  Do as many things today as you can on that list. I might not be able to get to a beach to listen to the waves but I could watch a live video of beach waves and close my eyes and breath in the fresh air on my porch and listen to the sound. (Actually I’m gonna do that as soon as I finish this…) I can put on some fun music.  I can exercise and get out in nature.  All of those things I can do TODAY to raise my vibration.

Or I can sit around and be sad and depressed and feel sick.

Which one serves the world more?  

I’m sure you’ll join me in sending love to Las Vegas and the MANY victims of this shooting.  The families, the city, the witnesses all who’s lives will never be the same.  If we briefly feel that, and then focus on raising our vibration we can better serve them.

I’m about to head out the door to workout, in nature, listening to some amazing music.  And return refreshed and renewed.

What will YOU DO TODAY to raise your vibe?  What makes YOU happy?  

Raising my vibe,
Steffani   

PS I still have a few spots left in my Happi Mom Squad.  This is the sisterhood we need at times like these.  If you’re a Mom who feels the call and wants MORE, We start October 8th.  You can find all details here. http://hms2.myhappilife.com/fast-track