THE POWER OF LETTING GO
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THE POWER OF LETTING GO

This morning in my meditation I found myself saying..

“Let go!”

It replaced my mantra so I went with it.

And with every exhale… I LET GO!

I let go of the 2 pounds I felt like I gained over the weekend
I let go of the bowls of cereal still sitting on the kitchen table
I let go of the resentment towards a friend who never apologized
I let go of the thought that I should have more of my shit together
I let go over planning
I let go of my negative thoughts about sugar and candy
I let go of control
I let go of my grief
I let go of the fact that my house isn’t perfect but I want it to be
I let go of my fears
I let go of my limits
I let go of the illusion that my kids should be different then they are
I let go of the fallacy that my husband should be more positive and helpful

I let it ALL go.

Its these THOUGHTS that hold me down. Not my circumstances. If I can let them go then I can be FREE.

Simple as that.

What do you need to LET GO of today?

HOW TO CREATE MORE OF WHAT YOU DO WANT
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HOW TO CREATE MORE OF WHAT YOU DO WANT

We are SO blessed. Everyone reading this has MANY MANY things to be grateful for. A roof over our head. Food in the fridge. People who love us. A computer or phone in your hand. The list is endless.

But we forget to focus on all that we HAVE.
We forget to CELEBRATE how far we’ve come.

When is the last time you dropped to your knees and raised your arms in the air in utter gratitude for your life and everything you’ve created?

Well what are you waiting for?! (I’ll wait….) 

When we focus on what we DO HAVE we’re asking for MORE of it. It’s a powerful prayer to the Universe. #moreplease

You get more of what you FOCUS on.

What do you want more of?

Are you married to the ONE?
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Are you married to the ONE?

Do we CHOOSE who to love?

I believe every love relationship is a choice.  There’s not “the one” who’s out there for each of us.  There’s a lot of options and we CHOOSE to make someone “THE ONE”.

The amazing Dan Savage spoke at Afest recently and he explained that there are a lot of 8.5’s and 7.2’s and 9.0’s out there.  We choose the ONE and we round up and make that 8.5 our ONE.  Love that analogy.

The power is in the choice.  

Once we CHOOSE that relationship then we need to ACCEPT them, love them unconditionally.  

Yes we can still ask in a loving way for what we need.  We can still hold each other to our greatest selves.  We can still grow together.  Grow individually.  And enhance and improve our lives TOGETHER.  We don’t need to stay stagnant.  We can’t stay stagnant.

I often feel we focus more on how we need our partner to change then we do on our own growth and expansion.  I’m guilty of this too.  When I look at my husband and think about what HE needs…

 

He needs to be more positive

He needs to pay more attention to me

He needs to be more present

 

Can I turn all of that around and see how I need to do the same?  YES YES YES.

We buckled ourselves in to this roller coaster ride together.  The ups and downs the steep climbs, the free falls.  ALL of it.  Why would I ever complain about the ride?  Or the price of admission?

If this is what I need to pay to be with him, to go on this beautiful ride, then I am HAPPY with it.  I can accept it, love it, and even be grateful for it.

When I had this revelation after hearing Dan Savage a few months ago I immediately wanted to share it with John.  Instead…. I APPLIED it first.

What’s the price of admission that I pay to be with him?

A temper?  Some negativity?  Him working long hours?  Not being present?  Lack of communication?  The fact that he never cleans up after making his late night PB&J?

If that’s the price of admission I have to pay for this life.  To be WITH HIM and have these amazing kids and go on this roller coaster ride.  Then I’m all in.  Hell yea.

And believe me, he pays a price to be with me.

The fact that I love to travel.  My obsession with personal development.  The supplements and superfoods that take over every cabinet in our kitchen.

PRICE OF ADMISSION.  Is it worth it?  I sure hope so.

So I applied this lesson first.  And started looking very differently at John.  I was more patient with him.  I stopped trying to change him.  I stopped chasing him around the kitchen asking him to clean his shit up.

And THEN I shared this lesson with him.  And explained how it was helping me to be more unconditionally loving and accepting of him.  He got it.  And saw what my price of admission was.

 

Our LOVE is a CHOICE.  

 

xxx,

Steff