Our life is made up of our daily habits.
I’m at a fun and inspiring conference in Jamaica this week.
It’s easy at these events to stay up late at the parties. Drink too much. Sleep in. Eat dessert. Daily.
But that won’t get me where I want to be. Investing in my optimal health and fitness has to be non-negotiable.
My daily habits have to be aligned with the greatest vision I have of who I want to be.
What daily habits do you need to shift?
They say change isn’t easy.
Is it hard for you?
I believe it’s what you decide it is.
If you think it’s hard, it’s hard.
If you think its easy, it’s easy.
I used to HATE change. Maybe loosing someone when I was young triggered my change anchor. I remember my mom moving our Christmas tree one year and it sent me spiraling out of control. It was as if Christmas couldn’t happen because something was different. I realized then how hard change was for me. But didn’t know what to do about it.
Now I’m a change addict. I realize that a stagnant life is not what I’m after. Nothing changes if I don’t change anything.
So CHANGE must come.
How can we create the most change?
Through consistent action. Even forced action.
Through I HAVE TO DO THIS OR I’LL DIE kind of action.
If we’re in the right STATE and have the right STORY then our the ACTION we take is gonna WORK and it will create a new reality.
Who’s ready for some ACTION this week?
What comes to mind?
What action do you need to take in your life right now?
Are you an “obliger”?
My coach asked me that a few years ago.
What do you mean? I asked.
And before she could answer ALL of my “obliging” came flooding back to me. Like a movie reel. I could see time and time again how I went out of my way to “oblige” other people. Never putting myself first.
It’s been a long obliging road.
Even as a young girl I would make nice and didn’t want to make waves.
After college I had a boyfriend who lived in Colorado. He was older than me. When I was traveling in Europe he cheated on me. He said he was with this girl because she had to release her Chee.
(Barf)Not kidding. This really happened.
And I obliged. “Oh that’s ok. I understand”.
WTH?!
I broke up with him a few months later in a letter. Telling him that he was just too much for me. That I was meant for a more simple life and he was meant for greatness. It was the only way an obliger could get out. So I obliged. God forbid I hurt his feelings.
I’ve obliged my way through partnerships that no longer served me.
Through jobs that I should have left years ago.
In relationships that had run their course.
In friendships that were clearly meant for a season not a lifetime.
Even obliging others who I’ve loaned big amounts of money but I don’t want to ask them about it for fear that it might hurt their feelings. Seriously?!
I’m an obliger. Clearly.
And what that means to me now is that I need more boundaries.
I need more self love. I need to put myself first and need to oblige ME.
When I can do that I can consciously create a life I DO want. Not one that’s dictated by other people agendas.
It’s an uphill climb. But with awareness my obliging others habit doesn’t stand a chance.
Are you an obliger? Where do you need to create more boundaries in your life?