If you want a better life….
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If you want a better life….

You have to change something.  

We often want MORE but we don’t DO MORE.  It’s a simple formula.  If you want to upgrade your life.  Upgrade your daily habits.

It’s so simple.  Not EASY, but SIMPLE.

Our lives are made up of our daily habits.  

But we often don’t put any effort into consciously creating those daily habits.  We don’t install daily habits that will enhance and fuel a better life. A life we really desire.   Most of us try to create a new habit.  We make a plan and start doing it. We go to yoga more.  Start a gratitude practice.  We try to be more loving to our partners.  We write a new affirmation. And decide we’re going to be more present.  But then… We STOP DOING IT!  

If you’ve done a lot of internal work, like I have, then you know what you need to do.  You have a lot of tools in your toolkit.  You know what daily habits will support your new desires.

You don’t need to learn more processes.  You just need to APPLY them. Consistently. And you have to create new HABITS.

What works for me, is tracking and measuring those habits.  And having someone hold me accountable. Only then do I  create consistently what I WANT.  Only then do I really make a powerful positive change in my life.  

If you want a better life.  Create better habits.

This is something I have mastered and LOVE to do.  I help women discover what they really want, why they want it, then create the new daily habits to support it.  AND, I hold them accountable until they get it.

Simple formula.  POWERFUL results.  

next level life mastermindIf you’d like some support with this I have a Next Level Life Mastermind starting in June.  It’s the most powerful program I’ve ever taught. You can still join us. And in 10 weeks your life will be unrecognizable.  You’ll make more progress in 10 weeks towards the life of your dreams then you have in the last few years.

 

Your new daily habits will get you there.  This is the coaching, the community and the accountability you’ll need to skyrocket your life to a totally new level.  

June 11th we officially start the sisterhood.  

June 21st-24th we meet.  In person. Total luxury.  Total commitment.

August 17th we celebrate our new fantasy lives.  

If you’re ready, apply here.  I’m ready to support you and help you make this happen.  

6 Keys To An Ideal Mastermind/Accountability Group
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6 Keys To An Ideal Mastermind/Accountability Group

Most people don’t know that I’ve been leading mastermind groups for over 20 years.

My first mastermind/accountability group was an actors group that I started just out of college. I put together this group (before the internet mind you…) to surround myself with other actors. (Since I didn’t really know any) And to hold me accountable to submit to agents and search for auditions etc. It totally transformed my life. I achieved everything I wanted in my acting career at that time, thanks to that group. And make some amazing friends along the way who I’m still in touch with. (You know who you are…)  😀

Then I used the mastermind/accountability mind to improve MANY other areas of my life….

  • Health and fitness (currently doing one now)
  • My Love Relationship (always working on this one)
  • My Parenting
  • My Business (SO SO POWERFUL)

I wouldn’t have all I have in this life without masterminds and accountability groups.

I started an accountability group in 2012 with some Afest/Lifebook friends who held me accountable for some MASSIVE personal and professional growth and expansion. And that’s how I launched my happiness coaching business.

I joined an accountability group right before I launched my book. And thank God, because without them I don’t think I would have met my deadlines.

Accountability is POWERFUL. It can get you unstuck. Help you refocus. And move you powerfully forward.

Often with accountability, you can accomplish more in 8 weeks than you would in 4 months. Imagine what your year would look like if you had more accountability to catapult your success and progress in ANY areas of your life.

In 20+ years of experience and research, I’ve discovered what the BEST accountability groups and mastermind groups need.

(I believe it’s best to combine the 2 first and foremost. A mastermind without accountability is not as strong. And vice versa)

Here’s what an IDEAL Mastermind group contains:

  1. The right curated amazing people.

You have to have people who were hand selected and have some things in common. A random group of ‘like-minded’ people is not as powerful as carefully curated people who all have similar goals and interests. I have a list of 10 criteria women need to have to work in my masterminds. And it’s been a game changer.

  1. Excellent content

A group without content is hard to keep engaged. Including excellent and engaging content either weekly or monthly helps to fuel the group.

  1. Collaboration

When the right group is put together everyone in it will have a lot to contribute. That’s why collaboration is key. Each person in the group should contribute in some way. And share their genius. In the right group, everyone is an expert. There may be 1 leader but it’s always a collaboration. And allowing participants to take on different roles helps a lot too.

  1. Commitment

Whether it’s verbal or written there has to be some solid rules for commitment. Being really clear and specific is important. Letting the group know what they’re committing to and getting their agreement. Preferably signed in blood. 😄 (It’s that important). If even 1 person isn’t as committed as the rest it can fall apart.

  1. Consistency

You have to show up. And you have to play by the rules to be on the team. If you’re not gonna show up to practice, don’t expect to play in the game. You have to decide on the ‘rules’ and the consistency. Weekly works best for most groups, but bi-weekly or monthly can be effective too. It all depends on who’s in the group and what you’re all after.

  1. Opportunity for in-person connection

The one thing I think that puts a group over the top, if you have all of the above, is an opportunity to connect in person. When you start a mastermind/accountability group and you can look into each other’s eyes and commit to one another. That can be a game changer. We often do more for others than we’ll even do for ourselves. So when you commit in person to help someone else hold true to their dream. You will be held true to yours. It’s a really powerful piece.

next level life mastermindI have a Next Level Mastermind group for ambitious driven women starting June 11th.

It contains EVERYTHING mentioned above and MORE. Oh so much more. 🙂 Our “Fall In Love Retreat” to kick off 8 weeks of ass-kicking accountability is June 21-24. I have a few spots left. If you want this level of accountability in your life, this might be a great fit for you. Apply here.

Use the 6 elements of an ideal mastermind group above and watch your life soar to the next level.

This shit really works! Who agrees? Let’s hang out!  😀

I Never Wanted Kids
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I Never Wanted Kids

I’m ashamed to tell you…

I never wanted to have kids.

I was 38 when I had Jack. And 40 when I had Zoe.

I was afraid I would be a bad mom.

I was afraid I’d yell at them… and I do.

I was afraid I wouldn’t know how to raise them….and I don’t.

I was afraid it would all be too much for me to handle…. and it is.

What I didn’t know was how much I needed kids.

I didn’t know that they chose me. That they were on their way. That I needed them for the progression of my soul. I needed them to show me my weaknesses. And create more strength than I ever thought possible.

I needed them to trigger me, and push me past my limits and stretch me outside of my comfort zone. So that I could expand into the woman I now am. So that I could learn to deal with more hard things and teach others how to deal with more hard things. So that I would finally know what it’s like to love someone to the depths of your soul. So that I would find little things funny again. And jump and skip and play tag again.

I needed them to push my relationship too. So that we would learn how to love each other differently. And how to be together through IT ALL. And I mean IT ALL. Tireless nights with a colicky baby, pneumonia, night terrors, constipation, umbilical hernias and then, bad teachers, bad decisions, broken hearts, more constipation, and homework.

Its only been 9 years and we’ve experienced so much together. These 9 years have felt longer than most. The days can feel so long. Longer than the days I was volunteering in a 3rd world country.

But I’m realizing now that I needed this. All of this. The yelling, the crying, the fights, the homework battles, the tears, the sorrow, the swear words. AND the joy, the laughter, the playing, the sweetness, the kisses the fun.

It all enhances my life more than I ever imagined possible.

And I wouldn’t change a thing.