Just Say No
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Just Say No

A big Ah Ha hit me years ago: In order to live and love even bigger, I may need to let go of some things that I love.

It’s easy to let go of things that don’t serve you. Things that you hate. That feel awful. But it’s hard to let go of things that you love. That DO serve you in some way. That are rewarding. But ahhh, that’s the catch.

Sometimes those things keep you too comfortable. They help you settle for a life that’s not ALL THAT. A life that you like but don’t love. That’s good but not great. It’s tricky.

For me getting comfortable held me back. Comfort can kill a dream for sure. What I realized was letting go of some things that I love helped me get MORE. It helped me move from Steffani 1.0 to Steffani 2.0.

I let go of a job that I loved to start my own coaching business. I let go of a house in the city that I loved to move into our dream home in the burbs. And now I say NO to things that I love because what used to satisfy and delight Steffani 1.0 doesn’t work any longer.

I’ve said no to speaking gigs. And no to travel. And no to book clubs and invitations and vacays and volunteer ops. Because if they’re not aligned with the newest version of me I’m doing myself a disservice. I’m fueling Steffani 1.0 while trying to elevate my life. That doesn’t work.

It’s not easy to say no. Especially to things you love. But I’m getting better at it. The newest version of me deserves it.

What do you need to say no to?  

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Find Your Dreams
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Find Your Dreams

I found my dreams today. 😊👍🏻❤ A box from my meditation area that I haven’t opened in 5 years. It had my vision boards and Buddha’s and candles and letters and angel cards and a tree of wishes and dreams. What a find!! 😊👏🏻❤😍

It’s amazing to look back at all this. And think about all that I have now that I started creating back then.

  • My business.
  • My book.
  • The school and teachers my kids have.
  • This house.
  • Our lake house.
  • My tribe of friends from around the world.
  • Luxury tropical vacations.
  • An all-expense paid trip to Kuala Lumpur.
  • Teaching in the Hall of Awesomeness at Mindvalley.
  • A Lifeclass with Oprah and Dr Shefali.
  • The new community I live in.
  • Getting paid to attend Afest and Genius Network.
  • My new besties.
  • The health and fitness of my dreams.
  • Romantic trips with John.
  • Fun epic new experiences.

It’s all in here. And I’m living IT ALL.

I’ve been studying this process of consciously creating my dreams for almost 30 years. It clearly works. I’ve been teaching it for 25 years. Because it works!

It doesn’t happen overnight. You have to do the f’ing work. Take ruthless daily action. Then it looks like it happens overnight. 😆😊 And people think you’re lucky. Or spoiled. Or like someone handed it to you on a silver platter.  It wasn’t….

I earned it. I created it. So can you.

If you have a dream. I can help you get there. Contact me. 😊👍🏻😍

Choose Your Reality.
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Choose Your Reality.

Walking in the woods today I cried…

Those of you that know me well won’t be surprised. My husband teases me that I cry at mall openings. 😆😍 I don’t cry at mall openings. But I do cry often. Almost every day. And it always…ALWAYS…out of gratitude and love for my life.

I cry when I FEEL this existence.

When I see the beauty in the world. When I take a deep breath and sense the essence of who I am. It overwhelms me.

I learned years ago not to get caught up in my thoughts. Not to focus on my circumstances. That who I am is beyond all that. And I experience what I choose to experience. I feel what I choose to feel. Even in hard times (and believe me, I’ve had plenty) I can find a way to be grateful. And see the beauty.

Sure it’s easy to be grateful and love your life on a beach. Or in the woods. Or at a wedding. Or holding a baby. It’s much harder in traffic. (But I do that too.) Or when a babies crying. (Yep. Been there.) Or when you feel stuck or unhappy or like your husband isn’t holding up his end of the deal. See I’ve made up all those stories too. And found my way out of them. Because they’re just that. Stories. They’re only thoughts in our head. They’re not reality.

We choose our reality.

And I choose my reality to be one based in gratitude and love for my life. It’s all a choice. A POWERFUL choice.

While driving home from our lake house I went through the drive-through at Starbucks. The man over the speaker was so kind and sweet. And when I saw him in person he was soulful and loving. While just handing me a green tea. And so I cried. Again. So grateful that I got to experience that beauty. 

Nothing else matters. It’s all just a dream. A movie. Playing in our head. And we write the script.

If you don’t like your life. Change your thoughts. Change your perspective. Write a new script.

It’s ALL possible.

And I’m here if you need me…I’ll be crying. 😊

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