steffani, Author at My Happi Life

Creating a new YOU in the New Year…

By steffani
December 31, 2018
Happiness,Limiting Beliefs,Mindset,Next Level Life

How do you create a new YOU in the New Year?

I’ve been doing year-end reviews and planning my new year for longer then I can remember.

I used to throw New Years Eve parties right out of college and my focus wasn’t just on drinking and celebrating (ok it was mainly that… come on, I was 21) but it was also focused on letting go of the old and bringing in the new.

I was notorious for having a ‘project’ or process that I asked everyone to do.

One year we wrote what no longer served us on this biodegradable paper and wrapped it around rocks and threw it into the river off my condo balcony. 😀

Another year we burned our limiting beliefs in a big bonfire on my roof.

And another year we chose a word or a theme for the New Year and made bracelets with the word on them.

See, I’ve always been into this stuff. 😀

I also asked people to bring gloves and hats and we donated them to a charity. Why not ring in the New Year doing something good?

Why let this significant moment in time pass you by without designing a new YOU?

See, we can create ourselves anew at any moment. If we choose to. So let’s do some digging and see who we want to BE in 2019.

Here are a few questions I love to reflect on about the past year:

What was your biggest triumph in 2018?

What was the smartest decision you made in 2018?

What was the greatest lesson you learned in 2018?

Who do you need to forgive?

What area of your life could you have focused more on in 2018?

Where did you fail?

And then, and only then, can you start to plan your new year and design a new YOU.

What would you like to be your biggest triumph in 2019?

What advice would your higher self give you going into 2019?

What would you be most happy about completing in 2019?

How can you nurture yourself more?

What one word/phrase will be your prayer, intention or theme in 2019?

Those are just a few fun questions to get you started.

We do an extensive year-end review and design our new year in my Next Level Life Mastermind. This year I created an Inner Circle Mastermind where we’ll be together cheering each other on for the whole year of 2019.

Why? Because that’s what I wanted to design in my new year.

And guess what?! You can too.

Whatever you want to be, do or have you can do in 2019. Literally. Not 10 years from now, not 5 years from now, NEXT YEAR!

Put some time into every area of your life and look at what you want, why you want it, and how you’re gonna get it. And your New Year will look RADICALLY different than any year before.

Let me know how I can support you being the best YOU in the New Year. I hope you’ll join me in some fun programs to step into your best self.

I have a 21 Day Badass Mom Mindset program starting Jan……

Here’s to 2019, may it be your BEST year YET.

Steffani

What if…everything is a gift?

By steffani
December 28, 2018
Happiness,Limiting Beliefs

As they say being a parent, ‘the days are long, but the years go by FAST.”

I’ve really noticed that this year. My son is 10 and doesn’t feel young anymore. My daughter is 7, going on 17. How did this happen?

I know you get it.

What I’m trying to do is slow time down. By getting really present. And looking at everything as a gift.

What if we really did that? Woke up every morning grateful for all our gifts.

For this life!

For these bodies.

For running water and electricity.

For the food in our fridge.

And the roof over our heads.

And the boy in the basement playing Fortnite.

And the love in our life.

And the paychecks.

And the snowfall.

And the Christmas cookies.

I mean really. We are SO blessed.

No one reading this is not blessed beyond measure. You’re probably reading this from the comfort of your own home or apartment. On a smartphone or computer. Drinking wine or tea or coffee. Really. WE ARE SO BLESSED.

If we can just come back to that more often. Like when we’re stressed about money. Or we’re yelling at our kids. Or we’re thinking we’re fat. Or we’re feeling like a bad mom.

Just come back to our blessings. And all will be ok.

After all, we got here by focusing on what we want. So let’s focus even more on what we’re grateful for. And see what we create from there.

Today I’m more grateful than ever to have you on this journey with me. This parenting thing ain’t for sissys. I realized right when I had my son that I needed a village. A sisterhood. And I’m grateful every day that I build this POWERFUL positive one.

Thanks for believing in me Mommas. And for believing in yourself. And making Christmas about so much more than just gifts.

“And the Grinch, with his Grinch-feet ice cold in the snow, stood puzzling and puzzling, how could it be so? It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes or bags. And he puzzled and puzzled ’till his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before. What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store. What if Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more.”
― Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas!

Wishing you all the happiness your heart and hands can hold this holiday season and beyond.

YOU. ARE. A. GIFT!

Steffani

This Holiday, How Can I Love You Better

By steffani
December 24, 2018
Relationships

Quick question…

How often do you show your partner you love them?

How often do you show your kids that you love them?

Do you do it THIS time of year but not every day?

Do you talk about it openly? Do you know what they need to feel loved?

For me, the magic of the holiday season is a great excuse to love on people more.
I give more hugs for no reason.
I tell my friends and family I love them and wish them well and happy.
I write letters of gratitude and give gifts of thanks.

Easy to do this now. What if we did this ALL the time. And what if we dove DEEPER into love over the holidays.

Thich Nhat Hanh says in his book Touching Peace that we should look deeply into our loved ones eyes and say “please tell me how I can love you better.”

If you’re a woman talking to a man I’m sure you know the nature of how he might respond. And it will most likely have to take place in the bedroom. Instead of just shrugging this off, really listen for the answer and see how you can meet your family’s needs.

When I asked my husband this question his first answer had something to do with me in a maid costume. Then, when I pushed him for more, he had a few practical suggestions.

“Support me when I have to work a lot. Help me find time to get out and play hockey. Don’t ride me when I’m tired and dismissive, it’s nothing personal.”

Wow. Is that all?

Seriously….aren’t those great suggestions? Are you telling me that if I do those things you’ll feel more LOVED? Then I’m in! Not a problem.

When I asked my friends they said nothing at first then they told me that I can call them more, and I can send them a holiday card. How easy is that? I would love to love them better in that way. When I asked my sister she said, “you can spend more time with me. You can support my dreams.” My other sister said, “you can be more patient with me.” What wonderful information for me to learn about my family.

What if we asked our kids “How can I love you better?” And really listened to the answer. They might have some great suggestions. The answers might have to do with more flexibility or more freedom and maybe that’s OK. They might want to spend more time with you, and that’s OK too. Or they might need you to be more patient with them or kinder with your words. (um, raises hand…)

But wouldn’t it be great to know how you can love someone better? Why not ask them and see for yourself?

I dare you, this holiday season, ask your Mom, ask your sister, ask your children. Be so bold to ask your husband or wife and see the beauty it brings.

I hope this holiday season finds you FILLED with more happiness than your heart and hands can hold.

How can I love you better?

Steffani